Don’t Be It, Dream It

Natty Soltesz is one of the most prolific gay erotica writers that I know. His work has been included in several anthologies (many of which include the word “best” in the title) and he’s contributed dozens of stories to the Nifty Erotic Archives, where I first came across his work (pun possibly intended.) I’ve had […]

The Randy Dandies find the Pearl: an interview with Mimi Le Yu

When I found out that Mimi Le Yu, one of my favorite burlesque performers, was fronting a new troupe called the Randy Dandies, I couldn’t keep away from their show Melons and Meat Sticks: a Dandy Backyard Burly-Q.  It was one of the best shows I’ve every seen. The storyline was entertaining and better developed than […]

Cosmocking

True Confession time:  I read Cosmo sex advice for years.  As my interest in women grew, and it was clear that Cosmo didn’t have any sex advice for queer girls (no kidding!), I stopped actually buying the dreck 9 or  10 years ago. Still, Ive been a faithful grocery-line reader until recently. Stopping even my […]

Ethical Monogamy

by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk  on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]

Coffee Talk: Monogamy 101

Join SEX+STL today at 3:00pm at Shameless Grounds (click here for directions!) for Monogamy 101. We’ll discuss the nuts and bolts of making a one-on-one relationship function. Communication, fantasy, jealousy, fidelity—we’ll challenge all of your assumptions about what monogamy means. (photo by Johnny Murdoc. Yes, he’s aware that he’s using a photo of a poly […]

Watching Porn in Public

The first time I watched porn with other people, it was five years ago. My partner and I threw this party… Wait, that’s a lie. The first time I watched porn with another person was years before that. My best friend and I found a small box of porn films and we watched them together. […]