Ducky Doolittle Interview on Sex Is Fun

Ducky Doolittle is a fairly new name to me. A sex educator based in Minneapolis, she speaks all over the country and has a fabulous series of videos on YouTube. Of her many projects, my favorite is ‘love u parties’ – a business that uses a direct-sales model (think Avon or Tupperware) to get high-quality (phalate- free) sex toys into people’s hands. Ducky emphasizes the usefulness of this model in places that cannot support women-centered sex stores like Smitten Kitten or Good Vibrations. Something else that separates love u parties from similar companies is a commitment to accurate information about of pleasure anatomy and connecting with customers over their specific needs. Ducky says that love u parties are ‘for everybody with a body’, presenting an inclusive model, that moves away from the the heterosexually-focused model of other companies.

About a week ago, I listened as the Sex is Fun gang (who are worthy of their very own post) interviewed her on their weekly podcast. An interview to be recommended — you can feel the warmth and compassion that inspire her work. Some of her words stuck with me so much that I had to listen again.

Highlights:

On nervousness around sex – “people don’t really realize how beautiful and perfect they are exactly as they are, you know, perfectly imperfect . . .” (this one gave me chills)

On sex educators: She reveals her own body-insecurities, even as a sex educator – growing sexually and emotionally is about awareness, not being ‘perfect’ – not even ‘perfectly secure.’

“I like to look at everybody as a sex educator”

“Whenever you look at a sex educator the first thing you have to look at is the intent . . .”

On the healing power of sex (this one made me cry): “. . . the earth is a heavy place to live, and it’s a heavy place to be, people are coming back from a horrible war, with really bad injuries, and people are surviving sexual assaults and domestic violence and misinformation . . . how we survive things is to tune out, to put the tv on, to eat too much food, to sit at the computer for 15 hours a day. And to have good sex you need to tune in to your body and be present with your body, that’s one of the reasons I love sex toys, you know, you put a vibrator against a woman’s clitoris and you are here, GOOD MORNING, WAKE UP. So, I do a lot of work to say ‘why don’t you turn the tv off and have a real conversation and touch'”

On a similar note, Ducky and the Sex is Fun crew remind about how sex can be at its most healing when we’re feeling unwell, or even in the case of serious injury or illness – it helps us to remember our sexual nature that,even if changed, remains intact.

Back to the love u parties — what are your favorite resources for sex toys in the STL area? Do we need our own Toys in Babeland or do our local stores offer everything you need? Or is what we really need is a good i love you parties dealer?

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3 Comments

  1. My friends and I went to Hollywood Hustler up north of the city a couple weeks ago. The people were friendly and the store was decorated well. We ran around like kids in a candy shop. Flavored lube, vibrating cock ring, strap-on dildo, even a book on feminism – all these were in our pile of goodies before we reached the check-out.

    And then the shopkeeper informed us that there was a free gift for purchases over a certain amount, so he let us put them all on one tab and split the payments among our credit cards, that way we’d qualify. He even tossed in a second free gift! I definitely put my student refund to good use. 😉

    FYI, your RSS is directing to http://sexstl.com/anna/2010/09/ducky-doolittle-interview-on-sex-is-fun/ but this page is displaying at http://sexstl.com/anna/2010/09/ducky-doolittle-interview-on-sex-is-fun%20/ , so following the RSS shows the page as not found.

  2. Thank you for pointing out the RSS problem! I’ve got it fixed, now. It was an errant “space” in the permalink. It’s not first time that a misplaced “space” tried to kill this website. (And I’m pretty sure that both of them were all my fault!)

    It sounds like you had an awesome experience at Hustler Hollywood; I know that the staff has always been super friendly when I’ve shopped there, from recommending gay porn to enthusiastically recommending a sex toy in a way that felt more like genuine enthusiasm then forced salesmenship.

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