Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 3 of 3

  This is part 3 of a 3 part series. Part 2 can be read here. by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone Now to the reasons I am a dominant woman active in BDSM.I love men and women. I enjoy their reactions to the activities I administer upon them. The power exchange between active parties in a scene […]

Guess Who’s Coming to Beat Me!

by David Wraith For the uninitiated, Beat Me in St. Louis (commonly known as “Beat Me” or “BMSL”) is an annual BDSM convention now in its fourteenth year. Beat Me draws attendees, vendors and sex educators from across the country. Instructors teach the tricks of their trade during daytime classes, and guests can then try out […]

Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 2 of 3

This is part 2 of a 3 part series. Part 1 can be read here. by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone Along with BDSM as a sexual activity may come social activism, community awareness and political lobbying. These are all goals the original feminists strove for in the Suffrage movement. It was not  simply enough to obtain […]

Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 1 of 3

  Hi, sexuals. A few weeks back, I did this interview with kink educator and pro-domme, Mistress Simone. For the next three weeks I will yield by blog on SEX+STL to the Mistress and her wisdom on the subject of being a feminist and  a fem-dom. Enjoy, and I’ll see you in February. – David […]

Body Positive for the New Year

by David Wraith I need to get back in shape. I’m so out of shape that I almost take pride in saying that I need to get back in shape, because the strategic use of the word “back” presupposes that I actually was in shape at one point in my life, while remaining suitably vague […]

Bend Over and Say Hello to Mistress Simone

by David Wraith So, you saw the cover of Lee Harrington’s book Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond, and you asked yourself, who is that hot domme on the cover? Well, mystery solved: she is none other than nationally renowned kink educator, Mistress Simone. Mistress Simone divides her time between St. Louis […]

That Poly Guy: Part 2, My Poly History

by David Wraith Hi, Sexuals. When people ask me how long I’ve been poly, I tell them nine years. This is technically true. I’m not even sure I knew the word “polyamory” before 2001. But the truth is, I’ve almost always been this way. When I was 11, I was introduced to “Rachel,” the resident […]

That Poly Guy: Part 1

by David Wraith Happy Anniversary, a film starring you-know-who. Hi, Sexuals. The biggest surprise I’ve gotten in the brief period since Sex+STL got started is that I have received almost no questions about BDSM or nudism (two topics I know a bit about). Almost all the questions that have come to me personally, in person […]

Bend Over Boyfriends… We’ve Got You Pegged.

by David Wraith “Bend Over Boyfriend,” written and performed by Elva Maxine Beach My junior year in high school, a friend of mine came to me with great concern on her face. She’d heard something about me and wanted to know if it was true. She looked me in the eye and asked if I […]

I Am NOT a Sex Addict – Part 2

by David Wraith Hi, sexuals. Last week, I made this post regarding accusations that I’m a sex addict. Now, let’s talk about the nature of addiction. While I believe that physical addictions are limited to things like alcohol and drugs, I do believe that one can be psychologically addicted to just about anything; food, shopping, […]

I Am NOT a Sex Addict – Part 1

by David Wraith I’m a big fan of Iranian American filmmaker Caveh Zahedi. He worked under the mainstream radar for years, making confessional documentaries for the film festival/ movie geek crowd (people like me). Then one night, to my great surprise, I turned on the radio and heard Caveh being interviewed on Loveline with Dr. […]