On Polyamory: Ashley’s Take

Two weeks ago, I posted an essay called On Polyamory from my friend, Christina, and I promised to share with you two more essays: one by Christina’s husband and one by his girlfriend, Ashley. I meant for this to be a weekly series, but prepping for Christmas last week sucked up so much time that […]

On Polyamory: A Guest Post

Recently, a friend of a friend wrote a blog post called “Adventures in Polyamory,” about his relationship with our mutual friend, Christina. On the way to her house I asked her where her husband was that night. “At home” came the thoughtless reply. Oh fuck. And like that we were walking into her house. Within […]

Show Me: Erotic St. Louis Anthology

Last night, at the incredibly successful Sex Positive St. Louis Out Loud (if you weren’t there, you should feel bad), SEX+STL announced our new project, Show Me: an erotic anthology of stories set in St. Louis. We’re looking for prose, poetry, fiction, non-fiction, and photography. Check out our submissions call: DO YOU HAVE SAINT LOUIS […]

TONIGHT: Is There a Sacred Dimension to Human Sexuality?

by Johnny Murdoc Tonight, Ben Schuldt’s Responsible Public Debate and The Ethical Society of St. Louis are hosting a debate, “Is there a sacred dimension to human sexuality?” SEX+STL’s Anna Bent will debate Matthew Anderson, author of Earthen Vessels: Why Our Bodies Matter to Our Faith and contributor to the blog Mere Orthodoxy. I’m genuinely […]

On Coming Out

Today is National Coming Out Day, so I’ve spent most of the morning reflecting on the idea of “coming out” and what that means. When I’ve written about the subject previously (see: “If you’re not out, you’re hurting us”), I’ve discussed the political ramifications of being out. I still believe that, over all, it’s those […]

City Jerks

One of the tiny—but beloved—joys that I have is experiencing a discussion about sex or sexuality in media that I wasn’t expecting, especially when it’s nuanced. Sunday night, my roommate and I decided to start watching Louie, Louis C.K.’s current sitcom, while we ate dinner. After a reasonably funny first episode, we decided to start […]

Thursday Music Video: Ani DiFranco, In or Out

-by Johnny Murdoc This song was a hugely reinforcing when I was in high school, not just when I was a little gay boy pretending I was bi, but when I came around to being cool with actually being homo. This song has such a wonderfully playful—but honest—attitude to it that I found really empowering: […]

Don’t Be It, Dream It

Natty Soltesz is one of the most prolific gay erotica writers that I know. His work has been included in several anthologies (many of which include the word “best” in the title) and he’s contributed dozens of stories to the Nifty Erotic Archives, where I first came across his work (pun possibly intended.) I’ve had […]

Coffee Talk: Monogamy 101

Join SEX+STL today at 3:00pm at Shameless Grounds (click here for directions!) for Monogamy 101. We’ll discuss the nuts and bolts of making a one-on-one relationship function. Communication, fantasy, jealousy, fidelity—we’ll challenge all of your assumptions about what monogamy means. (photo by Johnny Murdoc. Yes, he’s aware that he’s using a photo of a poly […]

Watching Porn in Public

The first time I watched porn with other people, it was five years ago. My partner and I threw this party… Wait, that’s a lie. The first time I watched porn with another person was years before that. My best friend and I found a small box of porn films and we watched them together. […]