A Very Kinky K.U.F.F. Christmas!

By Kendra Holliday Today we interview the leader of K.U.F.F.  about one of the kinkiest rockin’ holiday parties in town this season! The Beautiful Kind: What is K.U.F.F.? Kaos: K.U.F.F. (Kinky Under Forty Fetishists) is a new group for the St. Louis area for kinksters who are in the 18 – 40 age range.  We […]

A Spanking Good Time

By Kendra Holliday Years ago I had a girlfriend who wanted a riding crop for Christmas, and I thought, “How weird!” I’ve been to more than one party that featured a flogger where I was just a voyeur, and it looked pretty intense. I wondered what people got out of spanking. I mean, I spent […]

The Collection Blog Interview

An interview with the members of a new polyamorous blog based in St. Louis called The Collection! Meet Charlotte, Nora, The Reverend, The Rabbit, J, Darling Niki, and Pussy Pie… The Beautiful Kind: Well you all were a big hit at the SEX+STL happy hour, and PoDGE is praising you. We’re so glad you’re a […]

EVENT: Coping With A Sex-Negative Environment

By Kendra Holliday Do you work, attend school, or live in a sex-negative environment? At this small coffee talk gathering at Meshuggah Cafe, 6269 Delmar Blvd , we will discuss ways to deal with complicated issues. Please join us. Sunday, November 14th, 3pm I’ve been fired from jobs, banned from activities, shunned and persecuted for […]

“Like a Rose in Bloom”

Anonymous feedback from one of the attendees of our first SEX+STL fundraiser (we raised $300!): I had a fantastic time at the SEX+STL fundraiser party.  I met and talked with many interesting people, and found a community where I feel I fully belong. Watching TBK’s scene was entrancing; I felt like I was watching a […]

SEX+STL Happy Hour Positively Successful!

By Kendra Holliday We had our first SEX+STL happy hour at Foam coffee shop Thursday night and I’m thrilled to let you know it was a huge success! Billed as a great way to meet like-minded people, thanks to the fine folks of St. Louis, the event lived up to that promise. It was amazing […]

Female Chauvinist Pigs

By Kendra Holliday When I first heard Ariel Levy, author of Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture, on NPR, I thought oh geez she wouldn’t like me much. She takes issue with women who run around wearing Playboy necklaces and going to strip clubs and posing nude as a way of […]

SEX+STL Fundraiser!

Posted by Kendra Holliday, author of The Beautiful Kind PRIVATE, SCREENED FUNDRAISER FOR SEX+STL: Friday, November 5, 8pm-2am. $20 per person, cash only. TBK’s Coming Out Party. Proceeds to benefit Sex Positive St. Louis. 21 and up. Must show ID at the door. General social from 8-10pm.  At ten…the reason for the age limit begins. […]

Sperm Wars

By Kendra Holliday Before Sex at Dawn, there was Sperm Wars. I’m reading this fascinating book about sperm by an evolutionary biologist named Robin Baker. Baker was interviewed on several radio stations when the book came out, and he was instructed to not use the word sperm in his interviews. More than once the interview […]

Call for Models: The Masculinity Project

Attention St. Louis residents: Photographer Lane Goodman is seeking 12-20 subjects for his fascinating photo project that explores ideas of representation and masculinity. He’s also interested in non-traditional representations of masculinity, and representations of gender identity. In other larger, more liberal cities, photographers have no problem finding interested models for projects like this simply by […]

What an Exciting Week!

By Kendra Holliday This week I came out. After writing semi-anonymously about sex for four years, I made the choice to finally put my name (KENDRA HOLLIDAY!) and face to my website. It was a decision I took seriously, especially since I am a single mom in the Midwest, but so far the response has […]

What is Vanilla Sex?

By Kendra Holliday I’m all about vanilla sex. It’s the foundation of sexuality. My short list for what constitutes modern day vanilla sex (keep in mind that 40 years ago, oral sex was considered “unclean”) contains the following examples: cuddling, kissing, massage, standard sex positions, passionate lovemaking, oral pleasure, watching porn, monogamy, mutual masturbation, basic […]