Rye (genderQueer erotica)

Meet Sam Rosenthal and hear excerpts from Rye Shameless Grounds’ new location! Saturday April 6th, 2013; 7PM; 1901 Withnell; St Louis MO 63118 With three trans* identified characters relating polyamorously and negotiating BDSM scenes, author Sam Rosenthal takes on quite the challenge in representing erotic love and friendship in all of these forms. His first […]

The Savage Art of Virtue and Vice

The  promo videos and other buzz have had me excited about this Saturday’s Savage Tarot II event. Besides the fact that the generous artists are donating 20% of sales to SEX+STL, the images are just fucking stunning. The Savage Tarot is a full, 78 card tarot deck that Michelle originally created as a limited edition […]

Fitting Party at Hustler Hollywood!

Walking into the Hustler Hollywood on Natural Bridge Rd.is like walking into a less-pink version of Victoria’s Secret — with sex toys. Win and Win! What’s impressed me lately, though, isn’t just the impressive sex toy selection (plenty for men and women!) or their ‘wall ‘o lube,’ but the lingerie. Larry Flynt’s boutique boasts a […]

The Sound of Sexual Subcultures – an Interview with digitalcityscape

Welcome to this  ‘This Sexy American Life’  and in this act Mary Gould and Daniel Makagon make up the sound curation duo digitalcityscape.  Together, they create short audio documentaries on alternative sexuality in urban life.  Their first two pieces in this vein were set in Chicago — Daniel’s home base.   Leathermen follows the excitement of […]

Imagining the Worst

SEX+STL Parenting Discussion – Sunday, May 20th, 3-4:30 at the LGBT Center (map) This post is on a parent’s concern about sexual abuse, but the discussion is about raising sex-positive kids in general. I remember playing at the Kings’ apartment. We were romping around – I, my friend Aaron and his older brother Kimani – […]

Your Favorite Film (IN BED !!!)

Porn parodies are one of favorite sections of Spanky’s Video on North Lindbergh. I love how watching one of them keeps you from ever looking at the original the same way again! Lately, I’ve been able to watch a couple of parodies. One was fantastic (like its original) and one was a bust (like its […]

Ending Sexual Assault St. Louis

One of the webmistresses of this tumblr tipped me off to it at a party a few weeks ago. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and over at SEX+STL, this is when we’ve begun to gear up for SlutWalk. Didn’t make it to the SlutWalk summit? Like us on Facebook to stay updated and offer […]

Female Ejaculation FAQ and Demo

A week from today is SEX+STL’s  first-ever demo & discuss night! We hope that it will be one of many.   Blow jobs, and sensation play are other topics that will likely pop up in the future. What do you want to see? What do you want to talk about.   This is how Friday’s […]

In Defense of Smut: Kate Lovelady on Ethics and Sexuality

Some people think that sex positivity is just a fancy term for an  ‘anything goes’ sexual ethic — that people who describe themselves as sex positive don’t care about ethics at all. That’s of course, not true. But sometimes it’s easy to shy  away from paying attention to ethics and sex, because traditionally that has […]

Capturing Your Sexy Self on Film

Or digitally anyway. “X has tagged you in a photo” – is a Facebook link that I never click. I generally hate pictures of myself – my face always seems to be shiny and I’m convinced that I’m fatter with every picture. The idea of having pictures of myself is great, and it’s fun for […]

Happy Holidays! Love, Buck

Recently I was at Handlebar on Manchester, talking with somebody about drag shows  and she mentioned that she wished that she could see an all-king show here in St. Louis. I looked at her, shocked. “What about Monday nights next door?”, I blurted, referring to Novak’s weekly king shows. She hadn’t heard of St. Louis’ […]

From Cage to Erotic Den: Esther Perel’s ‘Mating in Captivity’

Sex is a state of grace. In a cage it can’t take place. Break the cage, then start in and try. -D.H. Lawrence  Esther Perel, a licensed psychotherapist  specializing in intercultural relationships, delves into the question of maintaining passion in long-term relationships. She sees the challenge here as one of fostering the closeness that intimacy […]