Our friend Cooper Beckett from Life on the Swingset has a new book out! Here is his announcement: Cooper S. Beckett here from Life on the Swingset! I’m so excited because my first novel has been released! A Life Less Monogamous is the story of newbie swingers entering the big scary sexy lifestyle. You can buy it RIGHT […]
Category Archives: non-monogamy
Play Parties: What’s In It For Me?
A guest post by Henry Lee (This article is based on a talk I gave on March 16, 2014 at Shameless Grounds.) So what is a play party? Some people might say it’s just a nice term for an orgy, but it can actually mean a lot of different things. A play party is any […]
Jealousy and . . . Violence?
by RunSilent RunDeep We have all probably heard of people who have gotten violent, or who have threatened violence, when they have discovered that their “significant other” has been in contact with someone who is not monogamous. Being reasonable and compersive people people, we have probably said to ourselves, “What in the world could possibly be up […]
Meet Life on the Swingset Feb 25!
If you attend our SEX+STL Queen of Hearts fundraiser this Saturday night, you’ll have the rare opportunity to meet Cooper and Marilyn Beckett of Life on the Swingset fame. They’re coming from out of town, just to be our guests of honor! I asked them a few questions so we can all get to know […]
On Polyamory: Ashley’s Take
Two weeks ago, I posted an essay called On Polyamory from my friend, Christina, and I promised to share with you two more essays: one by Christina’s husband and one by his girlfriend, Ashley. I meant for this to be a weekly series, but prepping for Christmas last week sucked up so much time that […]
On Polyamory: A Guest Post
Recently, a friend of a friend wrote a blog post called “Adventures in Polyamory,” about his relationship with our mutual friend, Christina. On the way to her house I asked her where her husband was that night. “At home” came the thoughtless reply. Oh fuck. And like that we were walking into her house. Within […]
From Cage to Erotic Den: Esther Perel’s ‘Mating in Captivity’
Sex is a state of grace. In a cage it can’t take place. Break the cage, then start in and try. -D.H. Lawrence Esther Perel, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in intercultural relationships, delves into the question of maintaining passion in long-term relationships. She sees the challenge here as one of fostering the closeness that intimacy […]
Ethical Polyamory in the Age of AIDS (and Other STIs)
by David Wraith This post is inspired by World AIDS Day and this post on The Beautiful Kind website. Those of you who know me have probably heard me refer to myself as a “free range, poly man-whore.” By that I mean that I am polyamorous, but not part of a closed poly circle or […]
Ethical Monogamy
by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]
Lessons from a Simulated Love Affair
This is a guest post from Robin, SEX+STL volunteer and mother of two. Please join us Monday, June 27 for our next Sex Positive Parenting group at Shameless Grounds, 7pm! My favorite Sim is a bit of a cad. Devon is high in charisma, but low in commitment. He has had 10 girlfriends, each of […]
How I Became Sex-Positive
Ed Note: This is a guest post by Nora. If you’d like to share your sex-positive story, please contact us! Who am I? I’m a woman who loves men and women. I am non-monogamous, in love with a man who is in love with me and another woman who is in love with him […]
How I Became Sex-Positive
by The Reverend Who am I? I am The Reverend. The Skepdick. I am married to a wonderful woman, we are polyamorous, we have kids and jobs and a wonderful life together and with our paramours. I am sex positive. I view respect and consideration to be at the core of all intimate interactions. Coercion is […]