A guest post by Henry Lee (This article is based on a talk I gave on March 16, 2014 at Shameless Grounds.) So what is a play party? Some people might say it’s just a nice term for an orgy, but it can actually mean a lot of different things. A play party is any […]
Category Archives: non-monogamy
Jealousy and . . . Violence?
by RunSilent RunDeep We have all probably heard of people who have gotten violent, or who have threatened violence, when they have discovered that their “significant other” has been in contact with someone who is not monogamous. Being reasonable and compersive people people, we have probably said to ourselves, “What in the world could possibly be up […]
On Polyamory: Ashley’s Take
Two weeks ago, I posted an essay called On Polyamory from my friend, Christina, and I promised to share with you two more essays: one by Christina’s husband and one by his girlfriend, Ashley. I meant for this to be a weekly series, but prepping for Christmas last week sucked up so much time that […]
On Polyamory: A Guest Post
Recently, a friend of a friend wrote a blog post called “Adventures in Polyamory,” about his relationship with our mutual friend, Christina. On the way to her house I asked her where her husband was that night. “At home” came the thoughtless reply. Oh fuck. And like that we were walking into her house. Within […]
From Cage to Erotic Den: Esther Perel’s ‘Mating in Captivity’
Sex is a state of grace. In a cage it can’t take place. Break the cage, then start in and try. -D.H. Lawrence Esther Perel, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in intercultural relationships, delves into the question of maintaining passion in long-term relationships. She sees the challenge here as one of fostering the closeness that intimacy […]
Ethical Polyamory in the Age of AIDS (and Other STIs)
by David Wraith This post is inspired by World AIDS Day and this post on The Beautiful Kind website. Those of you who know me have probably heard me refer to myself as a “free range, poly man-whore.” By that I mean that I am polyamorous, but not part of a closed poly circle or […]
Ethical Monogamy
by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]
Coffee Talk: Poly 101, February 13th at Mokabe’s
Are you thinking about opening your relationship? Are you poly curious? Are you new to the polyamorous lifestyle? Do you have questions about polyamory that you don’t know who to ask? Are you a poly veteran with wisdom to share? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then please join SEX+STL at Mokabe’s […]
That Poly Guy: Part 2, My Poly History
by David Wraith Hi, Sexuals. When people ask me how long I’ve been poly, I tell them nine years. This is technically true. I’m not even sure I knew the word “polyamory” before 2001. But the truth is, I’ve almost always been this way. When I was 11, I was introduced to “Rachel,” the resident […]
That Poly Guy: Part 1
by David Wraith Happy Anniversary, a film starring you-know-who. Hi, Sexuals. The biggest surprise I’ve gotten in the brief period since Sex+STL got started is that I have received almost no questions about BDSM or nudism (two topics I know a bit about). Almost all the questions that have come to me personally, in person […]
“Sex at Dawn”: or Why I Prefer to Get It On at Sunset
By Anna SEX AT DAWN: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality (July 1, 2010, 384 pages; $25.99; ISBN 978-0-06-170780-3 Sex at Dawn has been a bit of a hit in the sex positive community due to dramatic support by sex advice guru Dan Savage. PoDGE discussed it last weekend at their monthly meeting, and as […]