Our friend Cooper Beckett from Life on the Swingset has a new book out! Here is his announcement: Cooper S. Beckett here from Life on the Swingset! I’m so excited because my first novel has been released! A Life Less Monogamous is the story of newbie swingers entering the big scary sexy lifestyle. You can buy it RIGHT […]
Category Archives: polyamory
Jealousy and . . . Violence?
by RunSilent RunDeep We have all probably heard of people who have gotten violent, or who have threatened violence, when they have discovered that their “significant other” has been in contact with someone who is not monogamous. Being reasonable and compersive people people, we have probably said to ourselves, “What in the world could possibly be up […]
On Polyamory: Ashley’s Take
Two weeks ago, I posted an essay called On Polyamory from my friend, Christina, and I promised to share with you two more essays: one by Christina’s husband and one by his girlfriend, Ashley. I meant for this to be a weekly series, but prepping for Christmas last week sucked up so much time that […]
On Polyamory: A Guest Post
Recently, a friend of a friend wrote a blog post called “Adventures in Polyamory,” about his relationship with our mutual friend, Christina. On the way to her house I asked her where her husband was that night. “At home” came the thoughtless reply. Oh fuck. And like that we were walking into her house. Within […]
From Cage to Erotic Den: Esther Perel’s ‘Mating in Captivity’
Sex is a state of grace. In a cage it can’t take place. Break the cage, then start in and try. -D.H. Lawrence Esther Perel, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in intercultural relationships, delves into the question of maintaining passion in long-term relationships. She sees the challenge here as one of fostering the closeness that intimacy […]
Ethical Polyamory in the Age of AIDS (and Other STIs)
by David Wraith This post is inspired by World AIDS Day and this post on The Beautiful Kind website. Those of you who know me have probably heard me refer to myself as a “free range, poly man-whore.” By that I mean that I am polyamorous, but not part of a closed poly circle or […]
Ethical Monogamy
by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]
Lessons from a Simulated Love Affair
This is a guest post from Robin, SEX+STL volunteer and mother of two. Please join us Monday, June 27 for our next Sex Positive Parenting group at Shameless Grounds, 7pm! My favorite Sim is a bit of a cad. Devon is high in charisma, but low in commitment. He has had 10 girlfriends, each of […]
Body Image Talk May 15
Do you ever think badly about your body? We ALL do, men and women alike, and we want to talk about that! Charlotte Times will lead a body image talk this Sunday, May 15 3pm at Shameless Grounds. Behold before and after pictures of Ms. Charlotte: An excerpt from her wildly entertaining blog, The Life […]
How I Became Sex-Positive
Ed Note: This is a guest post by Nora. If you’d like to share your sex-positive story, please contact us! Who am I? I’m a woman who loves men and women. I am non-monogamous, in love with a man who is in love with me and another woman who is in love with him […]
Coffee Talk: Poly 101, February 13th at Mokabe’s
Are you thinking about opening your relationship? Are you poly curious? Are you new to the polyamorous lifestyle? Do you have questions about polyamory that you don’t know who to ask? Are you a poly veteran with wisdom to share? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then please join SEX+STL at Mokabe’s […]
That Poly Guy: Part 2, My Poly History
by David Wraith Hi, Sexuals. When people ask me how long I’ve been poly, I tell them nine years. This is technically true. I’m not even sure I knew the word “polyamory” before 2001. But the truth is, I’ve almost always been this way. When I was 11, I was introduced to “Rachel,” the resident […]