by The Vanilla Life My blog is to thank for getting the chance to write this guest post. That little piece of the internet is about sex as I experience it and issues related to that. More specifically, I write about what it’s like to be both vanilla and not; vanilla in the sense that […]
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Is PIV the New Oral?
by Anna In days of yore, when reproduction and male orgasm were the primary goals of heterosexual sex, ‘the main event’ was the penis moving in and out of the vagina. Indeed, even today what most people mean when they say ‘sex’ is penetration (of a penis, into a vagina). That’s problematic in so many […]
Vanilla Whipped up Right
by Anna One criticism of the sex positive movement is that along with setting up the norm that people should be having sex, and that sex should be relatively unproblematic, it also, in an effort to be ‘pro-kink’ tends to set up the expectation that everyone has some kind of fetish, or at least a […]
What is Vanilla Sex?
By Kendra Holliday I’m all about vanilla sex. It’s the foundation of sexuality. My short list for what constitutes modern day vanilla sex (keep in mind that 40 years ago, oral sex was considered “unclean”) contains the following examples: cuddling, kissing, massage, standard sex positions, passionate lovemaking, oral pleasure, watching porn, monogamy, mutual masturbation, basic […]