This is part 3 of a 3 part series. Part 2 can be read here.
by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone
Now to the reasons I am a dominant woman active in BDSM.I love men and women. I enjoy their reactions to the activities I administer upon them. The power exchange between active parties in a scene is beyond explanation. It is a much more spiritual bond than I have encountered in my non-BDSM relationships. The people in the community I have met are extremely intelligent honest and moral. I enjoy having such people in my life. It enables me to utilize some of my creative juices on a regular basis. Professionally, I am fulfilled by assisting those who come to see me express their fetishes safely in a controlled environment.
I do not partake in sexual exchange with my clients. Among my clients I have married men and women who can not otherwise express their BDSM. I also have elderly and handicapped clients who are uncomfortable with public display or desire the safety of a professional. I have women who have submissive desires and are more comfortable with a woman domina than a male master.
Those are my reasons for being a dominant woman in the BDSM lifestyle. They are not everyone’s reasons. Power does come into play. I will not deny I enjoy my power over the male sex. But it is not solely my reason. Other women I know have used it as a tool for such empowerment. I feel it can be a great healing tool for women dealing with all types of psychological issues. I hope my thoughts here have given you some insight into our world. Many of the issues raised within these posts bear further exploration and research. I hope to continue my growth within this context and develop a sound body of work to help our society better understand females involved in BDSM.
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Mistress Simone has been a professional and lifestyle domina and sex educator for over 20 years. www.chicago-mistress.com