SEX+STL Out Loud: Author, Marie Haynes

by David Wraith Some say the first rule of writing is “write what you know.” If this is true, then it’s safe to assume that St. Louis area author, Marie Haynes, knows sex, sadomasochism and… food. Her novel, Tasting Pleasure, is the tale of an American expatriate trying to launch a catering company in Great Britain. […]

TONIGHT: Is There a Sacred Dimension to Human Sexuality?

by Johnny Murdoc Tonight, Ben Schuldt’s Responsible Public Debate and The Ethical Society of St. Louis are hosting a debate, “Is there a sacred dimension to human sexuality?” SEX+STL’s Anna Bent will debate Matthew Anderson, author of Earthen Vessels: Why Our Bodies Matter to Our Faith and contributor to the blog Mere Orthodoxy. I’m genuinely […]

The Dick Chronicles: In Summation

  by David Wraith So, how was your month? Mine was interesting. Welcome to the fourth and final post in The Dick Chronicles.  Although, SEX+STL co-founder, Anna Bent did suggest making The Dick Chronicles an annual event where I write about my dick exclusively every October. Call it, “Dicktober!” Before I go any further, I […]

Meet Michael, Your Friendly Neighborhood Repulsed Asexual

Oct 23-29 is Asexual Awareness Week! Meet Michael, another representative from the Asexual Awareness Movement. Kendra: What is asexuality? Michael: Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. Both the words “sexual” and “attraction” are vitally important here. The latter underlies the fact that the label is independent of any type of behaviour: it is possible […]

(A)sexuality: The Making of a Movement

Oct 23-29 is Asexual Awareness Week! That’s right now! To celebrate, SEX+STL refrained from all sexual activity this week. Just kidding. Actually, we hosted a screening last week of the new documentary working the nationwide film festival circuit: Asexuality: The Making of a Movement. I like to joke that I’m the opposite of asexual. Does […]

Monday Night Movie Pick: Love Ranch

What keeps me going is that through all the lies, I know the truth. We had it. Him and me for a moment. Love and truth together. Finally. And forever. Hey, how many people can say that? – Grace Bontempo Terry Hackford’s 2010 drama takes its inspiration from Joe and Sally Conforte’s Mustang Ranch, the […]

The Dick Chronicles: Stupid Dick Tricks

The stapler will make sense later, trust me. by David Wraith I remember the first really dumb thing I ever did with my dick. It had nothing to do with a woman I was sticking it in. It was at a meeting of an organization called PEP (People Exchanging Power) in the upper floor of […]

Meet Vlad Drăculea, Asexual

In honor of Asexuality Awareness Week Oct 23-39, SEX+STL hosted a screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement last night. It was quite the mindbender! I’ll post my thoughts on it next week, but for now, get to know Vlad Drăculea. Kendra: What is asexuality? Vlad: Asexuality is a sexual orientation where […]

Meet Melanie, An Asexual

In honor of Asexuality Awareness Week Oct 23-39, we ask Melanie, a woman who identifies as asexual, a few questions. SEX+STL will be hosting a screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement Tuesday, October 18, 7pm. We’ll let you know how it goes! Kendra: What is asexuality? Melanie: Asexuality is a sexual […]

The Dick Chronicles: Projectile Dysfunction

by David Wraith Funny story: So, I’m on a first date with this girl I’d been crushing on for months. We go back to my place and after a lot of foreplay, I had what I thought was a reliable erection. Literally, the moment I put it in, it went limp. I didn’t get off […]

An Interview With The Asexual Sexologist

Note: This interview from a few months ago is being republished in honor of Asexuality Awareness Week, which is October 23-29. SEX+STL will be hosting a free screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement Tuesday, October 18, 7pm at a private home theater in South City St. Louis. Please RSVP to me […]

On Coming Out

Today is National Coming Out Day, so I’ve spent most of the morning reflecting on the idea of “coming out” and what that means. When I’ve written about the subject previously (see: “If you’re not out, you’re hurting us”), I’ve discussed the political ramifications of being out. I still believe that, over all, it’s those […]

The Dick Chronicles: Size Matters

  by David Wraith I read an article in a magazine a few years ago asserting that, in the single’s scene, a person’s worth is often reduced to two arbitrary numbers. For women, it’s their age and their weight. For men, it’s their annual income and penis size. Each number is often lied about, but […]

City Jerks

One of the tiny—but beloved—joys that I have is experiencing a discussion about sex or sexuality in media that I wasn’t expecting, especially when it’s nuanced. Sunday night, my roommate and I decided to start watching Louie, Louis C.K.’s current sitcom, while we ate dinner. After a reasonably funny first episode, we decided to start […]

Male Etiquette Class Sept 22

The other day I had a guy write to me: I am wondering if you might be able to provide some advice on how to interact with women better. I realize I am not very good at starting or maintaining conversations, recognizing when a woman is flirting with me, or flirting with a woman. I […]

So long,”Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”

There’s little that I can say that isn’t being said by others, but I think that Homo Riot’s poster sums up my feelings best of all: (art by Homo Riot.) -Johnny Murdoc

Thursday Music Video: Ani DiFranco, In or Out

-by Johnny Murdoc This song was a hugely reinforcing when I was in high school, not just when I was a little gay boy pretending I was bi, but when I came around to being cool with actually being homo. This song has such a wonderfully playful—but honest—attitude to it that I found really empowering: […]