Intention, Attention and Awareness: Figuring out Consent, pt. 2

Because you, and the world, deserve our full presence, our full attention, our full passion, and our fully engaged awareness. ~Lee Harrington The much-delayed part 2 to my first Figuring out Consent post! I’m so excited about the July 16th Slutwalk in St. Louis. I won’t get to be there myself, but it has me […]

Let’s Make it a ‘Hell Yes!’: Figuring Out Consent, Pt. 1

by Anna Bent Author’s note: just to be clear, this discussion of consent is about cultural, relational and community standards, not legal ones. Solutions regarding the morass that is the justice system’s (in)ability to deal with sexual assault is WAY above my paygrade. Anyway, I’m more interested in figuring out ways of relating that might […]

The Vasectomy Dialogues: Justin’s Story

Justin (and yes, that his real name), is a local 30-something guy, who’s stays pretty involved in the polyamory and sexpositive communities.  If you come to one of our events, you just might see him around.  His openess about his experience  has provided a meaningful close to our three-part Vasectomy Dialogues series. Settling down with […]

The Vasectomy Dialogues: Chatting with Michael

Recently, I was able to catch up with Michael and he was kind enough to be open about how he made the decision to get a vasectomy and his thoughts on the experience.  He’s 38, self-employed and living in St. Louis.  He got his vasectomy in Fall 2009 at Planned Parenthood’s North County location. Q:Would […]

Is PIV the New Oral?

by Anna In days of yore, when reproduction and male orgasm were the primary goals of heterosexual sex,  ‘the main event’ was the penis moving in and out of the vagina. Indeed, even today what most people mean when they say ‘sex’ is penetration (of a penis, into a vagina).  That’s problematic in so many […]

Audio Erotica

As promised in my review of sexaudia.com, I’m returning to their selection of sexy audio story providers. At  Nobilis Erotica, you find a collection of  podcasts with stories that lean heavily in the direction of sci-fi and fantasy.  But that is where the commonalities stop.  The stories present all kinds of scenarios and run the […]

The Bi-deology Project

The Bi-deology Project came across my radar immediately after Christmas when I was decompressing from  a stressful family holiday by catching up on sex blog reading.  I found Twanna Hines’ column on non-black men dating black women and wove my way from link to link to the Bi-deology Project, a joint video project that she […]

Vanilla Whipped up Right

by Anna One criticism of the sex positive movement is that along with setting up the norm that people should be having sex, and that sex should be relatively unproblematic, it also, in an effort to be ‘pro-kink’ tends to set up the expectation that everyone has some kind of fetish, or at least a […]

Internet Hasn’t Killed the Radio Star: Sexaudia.com

by Anna After reading Johnny Murdoc’s post, I found myself wishing that there was somewhere that I could find lots of great sexuality podcasts in one place.  Well, when I started surfing around sexaudia.com, my wish was granted.  Sexaudia is a sexuality-focused web radio station. This means that anytime you can ‘tune in’ and hear […]

“Sex at Dawn”: or Why I Prefer to Get It On at Sunset

By Anna SEX AT DAWN: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality (July 1, 2010, 384 pages; $25.99; ISBN 978-0-06-170780-3 Sex at Dawn has been a bit of a hit in the sex positive community due to dramatic support by sex advice guru Dan Savage. PoDGE discussed it last weekend at their monthly meeting, and as […]