The Savage Art of Virtue and Vice

The  promo videos and other buzz have had me excited about this Saturday’s Savage Tarot II event. Besides the fact that the generous artists are donating 20% of sales to SEX+STL, the images are just fucking stunning. The Savage Tarot is a full, 78 card tarot deck that Michelle originally created as a limited edition […]

Blowjob Demo Recap!

The other night Sex Positive St. Louis hosted a blowjob demo. I’ve always wanted to give a demo using a real, live man, instead of a dildo or other prop. The first challenge was finding the right guy for the demo. He had to be someone I liked and trusted, attractive, average-sized, good at receiving […]

Imagining the Worst

SEX+STL Parenting Discussion – Sunday, May 20th, 3-4:30 at the LGBT Center (map) This post is on a parent’s concern about sexual abuse, but the discussion is about raising sex-positive kids in general. I remember playing at the Kings’ apartment. We were romping around – I, my friend Aaron and his older brother Kimani – […]

Ending Sexual Assault St. Louis

One of the webmistresses of this tumblr tipped me off to it at a party a few weeks ago. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and over at SEX+STL, this is when we’ve begun to gear up for SlutWalk. Didn’t make it to the SlutWalk summit? Like us on Facebook to stay updated and offer […]

In Defense of Smut: Kate Lovelady on Ethics and Sexuality

Some people think that sex positivity is just a fancy term for an  ‘anything goes’ sexual ethic — that people who describe themselves as sex positive don’t care about ethics at all. That’s of course, not true. But sometimes it’s easy to shy  away from paying attention to ethics and sex, because traditionally that has […]

Capturing Your Sexy Self on Film

Or digitally anyway. “X has tagged you in a photo” – is a Facebook link that I never click. I generally hate pictures of myself – my face always seems to be shiny and I’m convinced that I’m fatter with every picture. The idea of having pictures of myself is great, and it’s fun for […]

Happy Holidays! Love, Buck

Recently I was at Handlebar on Manchester, talking with somebody about drag shows  and she mentioned that she wished that she could see an all-king show here in St. Louis. I looked at her, shocked. “What about Monday nights next door?”, I blurted, referring to Novak’s weekly king shows. She hadn’t heard of St. Louis’ […]

You Would Even Say It Glows

“If you have a problem with nudity, you have a problem with humanity.” – Amanda Azim Drew Digital has been putting on Glow events all over town. Here are pics from the first Glow event. These parties primarily feature DJs and bodypainting. You can’t very well paint a body when it’s covered in clothes now, […]

SEX+STL Out Loud: Author, Marie Haynes

by David Wraith Some say the first rule of writing is “write what you know.” If this is true, then it’s safe to assume that St. Louis area author, Marie Haynes, knows sex, sadomasochism and… food. Her novel, Tasting Pleasure, is the tale of an American expatriate trying to launch a catering company in Great Britain. […]

The Randy Dandies find the Pearl: an interview with Mimi Le Yu

When I found out that Mimi Le Yu, one of my favorite burlesque performers, was fronting a new troupe called the Randy Dandies, I couldn’t keep away from their show Melons and Meat Sticks: a Dandy Backyard Burly-Q.  It was one of the best shows I’ve every seen. The storyline was entertaining and better developed than […]

Ethical Monogamy

by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk  on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]