On Coming Out

Today is National Coming Out Day, so I’ve spent most of the morning reflecting on the idea of “coming out” and what that means. When I’ve written about the subject previously (see: “If you’re not out, you’re hurting us”), I’ve discussed the political ramifications of being out. I still believe that, over all, it’s those […]

Barack Obama, Gay Rights, and “Post-Mo”

Forgive me the stream-of-consciousness writing that is this blog post. I’ve spent the past few days writing an essay about Barack Obama’s progress on gay rights. It’s a frustrating task to undertake (especially in light of the events I’m about to write about). I like Obama and I think he’s made great strides in gay […]

Bodies, Bodies, Bodies! Gender-Inclusive Sex-Positivity

A guest post by Andy Semler If you were to peek into my bedroom window one evening, there’s a good chance you’d be greeted with the sight of two steamy-hot naked bodies (lucky you!). Mine: slender limbs, white skin, short hair, small breasts, hourglass waist. The other: muscular, white skin, short hair, large bone structure, […]

Mr. Missouri Leather 2011, DJ Kaiser

by David Wraith I ran into DJ Kaiser a few months ago at South City Diner, shortly after he’d started Bad Boys of St. Louis. Having only met him in passing, I thought we’d make small talk for a few minutes. We ended up talking for well over an hour about the sex positive atmosphere in St. […]

The Black and Lou Pride Ball

This Friday, June 10th, is the first ever Black and Lou Pride Ball. Our good friend DJ Kaiser is on the event committee and he gave us the low down. Be on the lookout this Thursday for my full length interview with DJ, the current Mr. Missouri Leather, on his impressive 9th place finish at […]

Brent’s Oral Exam: A Cute, Effective Safer Sex PSA

by Johnny Murdoc I’ve been thinking a lot about safer sex, lately, especially when it comes to the gay community. I’ve been especially torn between my role as a sex educator, and someone who strongly endorses safer sex practices, and my belief that people have the responsibility to make decisions for themselves and should have […]

“If you’re not out, you’re hurting us.”

by Johnny Murdoc The word “out,” when applied to a sexual minority, has a lot of implications and, honestly, a lot of layers. One of the most important things that I read years ago was that coming out isn’t just one thing that you do, it’s a series of steps that you will have to […]

Syncing Sexual Identities

by Johnny Murdoc One core problem that we at SEX+STL would like to address is the dissonance between our sex lives and the other factors that make up who we are. It’s no secret that American culture is incredibly uptight when it comes to sex (although not nearly as uptight as some other cultures) and […]