A Life Less Monogamous, by Cooper Beckett

Our friend Cooper Beckett from Life on the Swingset has a new book out! Here is his announcement: Cooper S. Beckett here from Life on the Swingset! I’m so excited because my first novel has been released! A Life Less Monogamous is the story of newbie swingers entering the big scary sexy lifestyle. You can buy it RIGHT […]

From Cage to Erotic Den: Esther Perel’s ‘Mating in Captivity’

Sex is a state of grace. In a cage it can’t take place. Break the cage, then start in and try. -D.H. Lawrence  Esther Perel, a licensed psychotherapist  specializing in intercultural relationships, delves into the question of maintaining passion in long-term relationships. She sees the challenge here as one of fostering the closeness that intimacy […]

Ethical Monogamy

by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk  on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]

How I Became Sex-Positive

by The Reverend Who am I?  I am The Reverend.  The Skepdick.  I am married to a wonderful woman, we are polyamorous, we have kids and jobs and a wonderful life together and with our paramours. I am sex positive. I view respect and consideration to be at the core of all intimate interactions.  Coercion is […]

Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: Part Two

by Johnny Murdoc In the last part, I wrote about primary method that my partner, Evan, and I used to facilitate discussions about sex, which involved regularly reading the weekly Savage Love column to one another. Reading about the real-world sexual issues of Love’s audience provided a great framework for discussing sexuality on a regular […]

That Poly Guy: Part 2, My Poly History

by David Wraith Hi, Sexuals. When people ask me how long I’ve been poly, I tell them nine years. This is technically true. I’m not even sure I knew the word “polyamory” before 2001. But the truth is, I’ve almost always been this way. When I was 11, I was introduced to “Rachel,” the resident […]

That Poly Guy: Part 1

by David Wraith Happy Anniversary, a film starring you-know-who. Hi, Sexuals. The biggest surprise I’ve gotten in the brief period since Sex+STL got started is that I have received almost no questions about BDSM or nudism (two topics I know a bit about). Almost all the questions that have come to me personally, in person […]

“Sex at Dawn”: or Why I Prefer to Get It On at Sunset

By Anna SEX AT DAWN: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality (July 1, 2010, 384 pages; $25.99; ISBN 978-0-06-170780-3 Sex at Dawn has been a bit of a hit in the sex positive community due to dramatic support by sex advice guru Dan Savage. PoDGE discussed it last weekend at their monthly meeting, and as […]