Pussy Party 3!

Speculums on parade!

Speculums on parade!

We keep having awesome events in St. Louis!

Let me tell you something about hosting edgy, sexually themed events in the Midwest – it’s a little bit frustrating.

First of all, you get the idea, or the request from someone in the community.

You can’t execute it immediately – you have to plan ahead in order to do it right.

So, by the time the event is announced, things have changed, and the people who requested the event in the first place are no longer available.

Each event is inspired by something or somebody who is, in all likelihood, no longer part of the equation by the time it’s put on the calendar.

In the days leading up to the event, and ESPECIALLY on the day of the event itself, you field all these regretful messages from people who can’t make it. To add insult to injury, they ask you to schedule another event like it soon, not realizing how much time and energy it takes to plan. Not to mention how fucking busy you are. But hey, so are they! Life happens.

But then!

the event happens, and the people who show up are the right people, and it ends up being amazing and totally worth it.

Every event is a crap shoot, and 80% of the time, it’s a winner.

Sure, we have some dud events, but we learn from them and move on.

In my opinion, the Pussy Party theme is one that should be repeated at least twice a year. It is WORTHWHILE.

This time, we had about eight women attend – four canceled at the last minute.

PRO TIP: If you’re attending a party where people are getting naked, try to show up on time. It can be awkward walking in on someone with their pants off, ESPECIALLY when a speculum is involved. Just sayin’.

Speaking of speculums, check out my fun collection! I have small, medium, and large.  The small ones are so cute! But, pediatric size, so kind of disturbing.

I got some from Amazon due to the cheap price, but you get what you pay for. I highly recommend every woman own their own personal speculum, and here is where you should get it: MedicalToys.com. I have the Graves Medium size #220-4001 (I’m 40 and am average size and have had one vaginal birth).

I was a little bummed at the lighter attendance for such a special event, but it ended up being perfect!

I can’t go into too many personal details in order to protect privacy, but we had such a diverse group – black, white, straight, bisexual, lesbian, women who have given birth, women who have not, women who have had a hysterectomy, women who have not, younger, older, pierced, sex workers, slim and curvy, women used to being naked around others, women new to SEX+STL culture… it was great!

You can see an action shot of me, with speculum in place, on my website.

I got to check in on my cervix-less vagina one year post-hysterectomy. My dead end had two visible scars where my cervix used to be. Besides the subtle darker marks, I was very smooth and pink. I love knowing myself inside and out! And I felt honored to see other women in a similar state. We all took turns showing off our pussies and talking about them. It was liberating, intimate, and empowering. As always!

NOTE: The next Pussy Party is tentatively scheduled for April 8. Be there, or be a man! (no men allowed)

 

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