SEX+STL Happy Hour, Tonight at Foam!

  Don’t forget that tonight is SEX+STL’s Happy Hour at Foam Coffee & Beer! Come out and meet the founders of SEX+STL! Enjoy the coffee, beer, and eclectic aesthetics of Foam in the Cherokee neighborhood! This is our first public event and we would love to meet with everyone and talk about the future of […]

Female Chauvinist Pigs

By Kendra Holliday When I first heard Ariel Levy, author of Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture, on NPR, I thought oh geez she wouldn’t like me much. She takes issue with women who run around wearing Playboy necklaces and going to strip clubs and posing nude as a way of […]

ChoiceArt 2010: Raising Funds for a Good Cause

by Johnny Murdoc SEX+STL’s Friday night shindig isn’t the only fundraiser happening this week. On Saturday, FriendsbyChoice is hosting ChoiceArt 2010, an art auction to benefit Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood is an invaluable resource in the St. Louis area. They provide health services and education programs designed to give teens and adults the information they […]

Friendly reminder: GET OUT AND VOTE!

Today is voting day. That means you should be out and voting if you’re legally and physically able to do so. If you need information regarding candidates and issues, check out The St. Louis Post-Dispatch’s Voter’s Guide. You can find your polling center at this website.

Courtney Trouble at Berlin’s Porn Film Festival

Queer is as hard to define as it is to ignore. – Courtney Trouble Some NSFW images below – scroll carefully. While St. Louis has been my home for the last 5 years, I will be spending the next 9 months in a small town in north-central Germany. Recently I had the good great immense […]

I Am NOT a Sex Addict – Part 2

by David Wraith Hi, sexuals. Last week, I made this post regarding accusations that I’m a sex addict. Now, let’s talk about the nature of addiction. While I believe that physical addictions are limited to things like alcohol and drugs, I do believe that one can be psychologically addicted to just about anything; food, shopping, […]

SEX+STL Fundraiser!

Posted by Kendra Holliday, author of The Beautiful Kind PRIVATE, SCREENED FUNDRAISER FOR SEX+STL: Friday, November 5, 8pm-2am. $20 per person, cash only. TBK’s Coming Out Party. Proceeds to benefit Sex Positive St. Louis. 21 and up. Must show ID at the door. General social from 8-10pm.  At ten…the reason for the age limit begins. […]

Sperm Wars

By Kendra Holliday Before Sex at Dawn, there was Sperm Wars. I’m reading this fascinating book about sperm by an evolutionary biologist named Robin Baker. Baker was interviewed on several radio stations when the book came out, and he was instructed to not use the word sperm in his interviews. More than once the interview […]

Getting Turned On by Levi Johnston’s Blues

by Johnny Murdoc (Warning/annoucement: this post contains links to websites that should be considered unsafe for work or minors.) A few weeks ago Ben Folds released a new album called Lonely Avenue, created in collaboration with novelist Nick Hornby, who wrote all of the lyrics. All in all I’ve fallen in love with the album […]

BC Recession-Style, Pt. 2

by Anna Note:  There are two brands of hormonal Emergency Contraception (EC) on the market now -Plan B (which was the only brand out, when I needed the stuff) and Ella (which was approved by the FDA in August 2010). I am using EC interchangeably with ‘Plan B’ because I’m more familiar with Plan B […]

I Am NOT a Sex Addict – Part 1

by David Wraith I’m a big fan of Iranian American filmmaker Caveh Zahedi. He worked under the mainstream radar for years, making confessional documentaries for the film festival/ movie geek crowd (people like me). Then one night, to my great surprise, I turned on the radio and heard Caveh being interviewed on Loveline with Dr. […]

Call for Models: The Masculinity Project

Attention St. Louis residents: Photographer Lane Goodman is seeking 12-20 subjects for his fascinating photo project that explores ideas of representation and masculinity. He’s also interested in non-traditional representations of masculinity, and representations of gender identity. In other larger, more liberal cities, photographers have no problem finding interested models for projects like this simply by […]

SEX+STL Happy Hour @ Foam Coffee and Bar

SEX+STL is happy to announce our first public Happy Hour on Thursday, November 4th, 2010! Come out and meet three of the founders of SEX+STL (Unfortunately Anna, in her current role as foreign correspondent, will be unable to attend.) Enjoy the coffee, beer, and eclectic aesthetics of Foam in the Cherokee neighborhood! This is our […]

“If you’re not out, you’re hurting us.”

by Johnny Murdoc The word “out,” when applied to a sexual minority, has a lot of implications and, honestly, a lot of layers. One of the most important things that I read years ago was that coming out isn’t just one thing that you do, it’s a series of steps that you will have to […]

BC Recession-Style, Pt. 1

by Anna Disclaimer re: hormonal BC — I don’t use hormonal BC myself, and am frustrated by the fact that options that are less burdensome to finances, health and the environment don’t get nearly as much press as the latest version of ‘the Pill’. BUT most U.S. women use the Pill at some point in […]

Westward Ho!

by David Wraith I know this site is called Sex Positive St. Louis, but on a site dedicated to sex positivity, I think it’s perfectly acceptable that we pay homage its American Mecca.  What Los Angeles is to the movie industry and New York is to the theater, San Francisco is to sex. Yes, L.A. […]

What an Exciting Week!

By Kendra Holliday This week I came out. After writing semi-anonymously about sex for four years, I made the choice to finally put my name (KENDRA HOLLIDAY!) and face to my website. It was a decision I took seriously, especially since I am a single mom in the Midwest, but so far the response has […]

Beate Uhse – Flying High

by Anna I had never been to a sex toy store before going to Germany for the first time about 9 years ago. To me sex toy stores were seedy places, with leering men lurking in dark corners. However, I had already bought my first vibrator –  a hot pink model, sold through Bust magazine’s […]

Syncing Sexual Identities

by Johnny Murdoc One core problem that we at SEX+STL would like to address is the dissonance between our sex lives and the other factors that make up who we are. It’s no secret that American culture is incredibly uptight when it comes to sex (although not nearly as uptight as some other cultures) and […]