The Naked Truth: SEX+STL Clothing Optional Events
Why Do We Do This? Why throw a clothing optional event? Why attend one? It’s a question a child might ask, but it’s not a childish question. I’ll answer with more questions. Why do we wear costumes on Halloween? Why do we wear black to funerals? Why do some offices require business attire, and why […]
More InfoHow to Get Involved With SEX+STL
One of the most frequently asked questions we get is: “How can I get involved with Sex Positive St. Louis?” We’re so glad you asked! Our group is exciting, titillating, challenging, inclusive, accepting, friendly, and SO MUCH MORE. Our mission has changed lives! We’d love to get to know you and exchange open-minded ideas. There […]
More InfoIs Camming the Job For You?
By Metta May [ A guest post by Metta May, founder of Wellness4Hoes and instructor at The Mistress Academy] There’s not really an orientation to attend for this gig, so if you’re new or on the fence, here’s a bit of a glimpse at what you’re getting in to! Be You! – This is the […]
More InfoThe Mistress Academy
By Lady Lovage The Mistress Academy is a finishing-program in St. Louis aimed at those in the sex work industry who are looking to incorporate BDSM and power exchange aspects into their personal or professional lives. This program is taught by Lady Lovage, a Dominatrix with seven years of experience both as a lifestyle Femdom […]
More InfoA Conversation with the Ladies of the House of J Femdom Collective
When I arrive at the downtown St. Louis loft building that houses the Loft of Sin, the home to the House of J Femdom collective, I’m met by a very polite young person who escorts me to the elevator and up to the dungeon. As a submissive, I’m always a little nervous meeting dominants […]
More InfoSEX+STL: The War on Whores with Maggie McNeill
The War on Whores [Free Documentary Screening] Featuring Maggie McNeill Wednesday, May 1, 2019 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM Brown School at Washington University 1 Brookings Dr · St. Louis, MO THIS EVENT IS A VERY SPECIAL OPPORTUNITY. We are SO excited to welcome Maggie McNeill back to St Louis! She was last here in 2014, promoting her book. This […]
More InfoSESTA/FOSTA: The Strangulation of Free Expression & Safe Sex Work
A guest post by Jackie Harris For the last 22 years, freedom of expression online in the US has lived happily within “47 U.S.C., the Communications Decency Act,” a piece of legislation whose original purpose was, as suggested by its name, used to restrict free speech on the internet. Oddly enough, within this act passed to […]
More InfoAsk SEX+STL: How Do I Find a Woman to Spank Me?
Q: I have been looking long and hard for someone who will spank me. Seriously. Would you know any trust worthy ladies you could tell me about? Or could you point me in the right direction? Thanks so much. A: There are two solutions to your situation. One involves an investment of time, the other an […]
More InfoSEX+STL Meetup Group Email Policy
One of the goals of Sex Positive St. Louis is to connect like-minded, sex-positive people and foster a sex-positive community. That being said, using the SEX+STL Meetup Group for the sending of unsolicited, sexually explicit emails to other group members is inappropriate and will not be tolerated. Doing so is grounds for being banned from the […]
More InfoA Message from the Leaders of Sex Positive St Louis
Sex Positive St. Louis is a non-partisan organization. While we reserve the right to fight for the political causes we believe in, in our six year history we have not seen fit to endorse any particular political candidate or party. That said, in light of our most recent election, we feel the need to publicly […]
More InfoLet’s Talk About Caitlyn Jenner: Part 1 of 2
Every disenfranchised group has to deal with its Fifth Columnists. Black folks have Stacey Dash. The upshot is that Stacey is far from being the most well known black woman in entertainment, journalism or politics among black or white people. Conservative voices among the marginalized are rarely the most prominent voices. More people know Margaret […]
More InfoLet’s Talk About Caitlyn Jenner: Part 2 of 2
This is the second part of a two part conversation. For part one, click here. Dramatist Personae: Jaimie Hileman – Board President of Metro Trans Umbrella Group of Greater St. Louis Joss Barton – Writer and Artist Ruby Threadgill – Radio Personality, founder of Generation Next SEX+STL: Joss, since you’ve watched the show, what is […]
More InfoHow to Throw a Penis Party
I’ve spent the last five years throwing all sorts of clothing optional events. And you probably haven’t. I’ve sort of become an accidental expert on the subject, so if you’re in the St. Louis area and are in the market for a clothing optional event planner, I’m your man. If you’re outside the St. Louis […]
More InfoIt Worked for Us: Starting a Successful Sex-Positive Group in Your City
Our society is confusing – we’re OBSESSED with sex, but we’re SO AFRAID of it. Just about everything thing you see in the media is ignorance or fear-based. Sex is censored, controlled, sensationalized, misconstrued… no wonder we’re confused! That’s why access to sex-positive education is SO critical. EVERY city should have a sex-positive organization where people […]
More InfoBringing Sexy Black with Dr. Lexx
Dr. Lexx will be presenting SEX+STL’s Homophobia in Black Culture, Sunday, December 6th, 2015, 2 pm, at Shameless Grounds, co-sponsored by Afrosexology. For our interview with the founders of Afrosexology, click here. If you’re attending a presentation by Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, Ph.D., the keyword is “comfort,” as in; wear comfortable clothes, don’t get too comfortable in your chair, […]
More InfoBringing Sexy Black with Afrosexology
Afrosexology is a co-sponsor of SEX+STL’s Homophobia in Black Culture, with Dr. Lexx Brown-James, Sunday, December 6th, 2015, 2 pm, at Shameless Grounds. For our interview with Dr. Lexx, click here. The 14th Street Mall in Old North St. Louis is dark and quiet around 6 p.m, the Sunday before Thanksgiving. The only light that’s […]
More InfoSEX+STL: Fifth Anniversary Fleshtivus
Please read the details in full for instructions on how to RSVP for this event: Peace, Joy, and Love to you all! Our annual clothing optional holiday party, Fleshtivus, is upon us. This year there’s even more reason to celebrate. Come join us for Sex Positive St. Louis’ 5th Year Anniversary! The SEX+STL team […]
More InfoOn Being Intersex… Or, I Am Not a Unicorn
by Leon Augustus Braxton, Jr. Many do believe that intersex people are like unicorns: a mythical creature that is rarely seen. Like unicorns, intersex has been largely unseen mainly due to the veil of secrecy and shame that intersex people feel. However, unlike the unicorn we are not a myth – we exist. Intersex people are […]
More InfoA SEX+STL Testimonial from M
M is a woman in her 20’s… I heard that the SEX+STL community was a good, welcoming one, and I caught a glimpse of that warmth at the Topless Tea Party. It’s hard to find a group of women who are truly, truly kind, but everyone was. Really. The veterans were happy to include the […]
More InfoA SEX+STL Testimonial from J
J is a woman in her 40’s… The Bare as You Dare event held by SEX+STL has, thus far, been one of the most transformative experiences of my life. Having been raised in an extremely religious family (and taught all of the body shame and sex shame that seems to go along with that), and […]
More InfoPlay Parties: What’s In It For Me?
A guest post by Henry Lee (This article is based on a talk I gave on March 16, 2014 at Shameless Grounds.) So what is a play party? Some people might say it’s just a nice term for an orgy, but it can actually mean a lot of different things. A play party is any […]
More InfoSEX+STL Clothing Optional Bowling Party: Friday, April 18th
Everybody, everybody, get your bowl on! Join us for (what we honestly believe to be) St. Louis’ first ever Clothing Optional Bowling Party. $20 gets you three hours of clothing optional bowling and/or billiards, shoe rental and free food. Cash bar (no outside beverages, please) Catering By Shameless Grounds Music provided by DJ Shawn Gaston […]
More InfoAd-Liberation! SEX+STL and NARAL present a night of Improv!
Join Sex Positive St. Louis and NARAL: Pro-Choice America for Ad-Liberation! A Night of Improv Comedy featuring Mama’s Pot Roast, Washington University’s Premiere Short Form Improv and Sketch Comedy Group. March 20th at the Ann W. Olin Women’s Building on the Washington University Campus: (Download the map here.)
More InfoPussy Party 3!
We keep having awesome events in St. Louis! Let me tell you something about hosting edgy, sexually themed events in the Midwest – it’s a little bit frustrating. First of all, you get the idea, or the request from someone in the community. You can’t execute it immediately – you have to plan ahead in […]
More InfoMelt (or Sex & Waffles on Cherokee Street)
We all know about smoking the customary after sex cigarette. But what do you do after phone sex? You eat waffles, that’s what! We here at SEX+HQ have always found waffles to be very sexy. Well, maybe not the actual waffle so much as the way the waffle receives the syrup. But always having syrup […]
More InfoActive Transportation for Health at Every Size (Part 1 of 2)
Here at Sex Positive St. Louis, from Clothing Optional Meetups to the World Naked Bike Ride, we’re all about body acceptance. So, when I heard that a friend from my undergrad days, personal trainer and mixed martial artist, Tracy Herold, was leading a discussion for TrailNet’s “TrailNet on Tap” series on Active Transportation for Health […]
More InfoActive Transportation for Health at Every Size (Part 2 of 2)
This is part two of my interview with martial artist and personal trainer, Tracy Herold, on the Healthy at Every Size movement and TrailNet’s TrailNet on Tap: Active Transportation for Health at Every Size. Part one can be read here. Check out TrailNet on Tap: Active Transportation for Health at Every Size, Wednesday, August 28th at 7pm at Urban Eats Cafe […]
More InfoClever book designs featuring vulva…
“I’m always strangely delighted by clever book designs that involve the vulva,” says the gay male book designer. There’s something, er, ripe about the vulva that makes clever interpretations so damned engaging. The same simply cannot be said for graphic interpretations of the penis. Aside from Andy Warhol’s Velvet Underground album cover (see the bottom […]
More InfoIn Honor of World Naked Bike Ride: Nude News from Around the World
by David Wraith Did you know that St. Louis is host to one of the biggest World Naked Bike Ride’s in the country? Well, if you don’t know, now you know. Last week we celebrated Nude Recreation Week with our Bare As You Dare workshop, and now we’re eagerly awaiting the best naked party in […]
More InfoWhat We Talk About When We Talk About Vanilla
by The Vanilla Life My blog is to thank for getting the chance to write this guest post. That little piece of the internet is about sex as I experience it and issues related to that. More specifically, I write about what it’s like to be both vanilla and not; vanilla in the sense that […]
More InfoBuy a Fucking T-Shirt!
SEX+STL T-Shirts will help you get all the girls. Or guys. Whatever you’re into. We don’t care. We’re Sex Positive St. Louis! If we cared, we’d be Sex Negative St. Louis. Did you know that SEX+STL T-Shirts are made in the USA by union workers paid a living wage? No, you didn’t know that, because […]
More InfoRye (genderQueer erotica)
Meet Sam Rosenthal and hear excerpts from Rye Shameless Grounds’ new location! Saturday April 6th, 2013; 7PM; 1901 Withnell; St Louis MO 63118 With three trans* identified characters relating polyamorously and negotiating BDSM scenes, author Sam Rosenthal takes on quite the challenge in representing erotic love and friendship in all of these forms. His first […]
More InfoJealousy and . . . Violence?
by RunSilent RunDeep We have all probably heard of people who have gotten violent, or who have threatened violence, when they have discovered that their “significant other” has been in contact with someone who is not monogamous. Being reasonable and compersive people people, we have probably said to ourselves, “What in the world could possibly be up […]
More InfoSex and St. Louis: 1976
by guest author Henry Lee ed. note: check out Henry Lee’s story Service in Show Me: an erotic anthology It’s easy enough to locate books and articles on conventional St. Louis history. Subjects such as the 1904 World’s Fair, the cholera epidemic of 1849, and the rise and fall of the big breweries have been […]
More InfoShow Me Release Party!
Everybody needs a little release… Celebrate the release of Show Me, Sex Positive St. Louis’ collection of 10 pieces of short erotic fiction. Hot tales featuring places, cultures, and experiences that make life – and sex – in St. Louis unique! This will be the first collection of erotic stories to focus on Midwestern urban and suburban […]
More InfoThe Savage Art of Virtue and Vice
The promo videos and other buzz have had me excited about this Saturday’s Savage Tarot II event. Besides the fact that the generous artists are donating 20% of sales to SEX+STL, the images are just fucking stunning. The Savage Tarot is a full, 78 card tarot deck that Michelle originally created as a limited edition […]
More InfoAre Single Men Welcome at SEX+STL Events?
With our next clothing optional party coming right up (2nd Annual Fleshtivus!), we’ve had quite a few inquiries from folks new to SEX+STL. Here is an example: Dear SEX+STL, I’m a 45-year-old man who has had a reasonably happy sex life so far, though I started late (at 23). One reason for this late start […]
More InfoFitting Party at Hustler Hollywood!
Walking into the Hustler Hollywood on Natural Bridge Rd.is like walking into a less-pink version of Victoria’s Secret — with sex toys. Win and Win! What’s impressed me lately, though, isn’t just the impressive sex toy selection (plenty for men and women!) or their ‘wall ‘o lube,’ but the lingerie. Larry Flynt’s boutique boasts a […]
More InfoHow I Learned to Stop Worrying (and Love the Porn)
In honor of today’s discussion about smut (join us today at The Ethical Society from 11:00 to 1:00!), I’m going to reprint an essay I wrote back in December of 2010. by Johnny Murdoc When I moved in with my partner, I did something unthinkable: I stopped masturbating. Though we’d been sexually active before we […]
More InfoTrans Folk Welcome
by David Wraith Most of the time, when Team SEX+ is out and about, it’s at our own events where most people we meet are fellow travelers. The summer months gave us the chance to get out in the community and interact with people who are less familiar with who we are and what we […]
More InfoThe Ethical Side of Smut
Continuing the discussion started by Kate Lovelady’s “In Defense of Smut,” join The Ethical Society of St. Louis and Sex Positive St. Louis in a discourse about the role smut plays in our lives. How do you use smut? Do you feel guilt about your interaction with smut? Is it possible to integrate smut into […]
More InfoA Weekend with Lee Harrington & Mollena Williams
How much would you pay to see an internationally known sex educator? How far would you travel? What if I told you that you don’t have to leave St. Louis? What if I told you that you could see not one, but two internationally known sex educators? What if I told you that you had […]
More InfoBe a Star in ShowMe!
Be part of St. Louis’ first collection of erotic fiction! You’ve probably heard about ShowMe, Sex Positive St. Louis’ collection of 12 pieces of short erotic fiction. Hot tales featuring places, cultures, and experiences that make life – and sex – in St. Louis unique. This will be the first collection of erotic stories to focus […]
More InfoClothing Optional Pool Party II: The Revenge
by David Wraith You know what they say about summer blockbusters? They demand sequels. Last year’s Clothing Optional Pool Party was such a big hit; we’ve turned it into a franchise! Just when you thought it was safe to go back in the water… Coming August 11th at 1pm to a ridiculously huge pool in […]
More InfoSlutWalk St. Louis 2012: Big Ups, Mad Props and Sincere Thanks
by David Wraith SlutWalk 2012 was amazing. There are so many people to thank. Our Co-Sponsors: First, to Chip Schloss, Jim Kellogg and everyone at the Atomic Cowboy: Everything we asked for, we got, quickly and courteously. We couldn’t ask for a more supportive venue. Thank you so much! To TransHaven: Claire Swinford, your presentation […]
More InfoTim Supports SlutWalk
Tim Lumpkins is a writer, photographer, printer, and lover of many things geeky. Check out his work at Tim Lumpkins Creative. SlutWalk is Saturday, July 14th.
More InfoCourtney Supports SlutWalk
Courtney Armstead is a volunteer with SlutWalkSTL. SlutWalk is Saturday, July 14th.
More InfoEmily Supports SlutWalk
Emily Kothe is a blogger and activist. Her alter ego, Ginger Bangalore, is a burlesque performer with the Thunder Kittens. SlutWalk is Saturday, July 14th.
More InfoPlay Piercing 101
Ed Note: This is a guest post by Courtney, a professional piercer at TRX Studio on S. Grand in celebration of International Body Piercing Day (June 28)! Body piercing has long been used by humans as a way to decorate our skin. Be it to identify ourselves with a group, express our individuality, or to […]
More InfoSEX+STL Clothing Optional Weekend June 29th – July 1st
Nude Recreation Week is July 9th – 15th, but here at SEX+HQ, we can’t wait that long, so we’re ending June and kicking off July with a bang! A three day weekend of Clothing Optional events to help you cool off in this hot summer. Bare as You Dare: Radical Body Acceptance, June 29th, 7pm […]
More InfoBlue Supports SlutWalk
Blue is an actress, singer, burlesque performer and activist. These days you can see her performing with The Ragged Blade Band. SlutWalk is Saturday, July 14th.
More InfoJoin Local Comic Shop Star Clipper for A Very Gay, Very Mutant Wedding
Our friends down at Star Clipper Comics want to share news that they’ll be throwing a celebration for the most talked about gay comic wedding (seriously, y’all, it was on The View): Wednesday, June 20th sees the wedding of X-Men Northstar to his human boyfriend Kyle. Star Clipper is going all out, sharing Northstar’s joy […]
More InfoSiren Supports SlutWalk
Siren is one of St. Louis’ premier drag performers and co-founder of Glitter Bomb Productions. Check her out Fridays at Attitudes Night Club or every second Saturday of the month at Shameless Grounds for Off the G.R.I.D. (Genderfuck Retro-Alternative Indie Drag). Follow her on Twitter: @ThatBitchSiren SlutWalk is Saturday, July 14th.
More InfoSlutWalk STL 2012 Poster
by David Wraith The SlutWalk St. Louis 2012 posters will be hitting the streets soon, but I just had to share. Special thanks to photographer Allan Crain for shooting this beautiful image, and to all our models (left to right), Emily Kothe, Siren, Blue, Tim Lumpkins and Courtney Armstead. You’ll be hearing more from and […]
More InfoMarch with SEX+STL in the Pride Parade!
It’s that time again! June is Pride Month and we’re looking for a few loud and proud sex positive peeps to march with us in this year’s Pride Parade. Our sex positive army is growing and what better opportunity for a show of strength that will act as a deterrent to the forces of sex negativity? […]
More InfoASK SEX+STL: Too Hairy?
A reader asks: I’m a St. Louis resident and I have been told by several women that I need to shave. I’m not sure what they mean by this, whether I need to shave my pubic area or my whole body? I have attached a picture of myself. Please let me know if you find […]
More InfoThe Gateway Burn
by David Wraith Many people are familiar with Burning Man, the annual weeklong festival that draws as many as fifty-thousand people to the Nevada desert each year. What fewer people know is that all over the country there are regional “burns” (smaller, weekend camping events inspired by Burning Man) based on the same creativity, non-conformity […]
More InfoThe Sound of Sexual Subcultures – an Interview with digitalcityscape
Welcome to this ‘This Sexy American Life’ and in this act Mary Gould and Daniel Makagon make up the sound curation duo digitalcityscape. Together, they create short audio documentaries on alternative sexuality in urban life. Their first two pieces in this vein were set in Chicago — Daniel’s home base. Leathermen follows the excitement of […]
More InfoImagining the Worst
SEX+STL Parenting Discussion – Sunday, May 20th, 3-4:30 at the LGBT Center (map) This post is on a parent’s concern about sexual abuse, but the discussion is about raising sex-positive kids in general. I remember playing at the Kings’ apartment. We were romping around – I, my friend Aaron and his older brother Kimani – […]
More InfoSEX+STL Clothing Optional Yoga with Ami Amoré
Clothing Optional Yoga with Ami Amoré is held on Tuesdays Sundays in a private studio in South St. Louis. The fee is $10. Please bring a bottle of water, a towel, and a yoga mat. Class size is limited. Contact amorticious [at] gmail [dot] com or RSVP via the SEX+STL Meetup group if you’d like to […]
More InfoDon’t Know Dick: SEX+STL Trivia Tonight!
Tonight’s the night! For twenty lousy bucks, you get eight rounds of sex positive trivia hosted by your good friends Anna Bent, Kendra Holliday, Johnny Murdoc and David Wraith. Plus, an open beer and wine bar. Come for the trivia, stay to get an early start on a night’s drinking! Tickets will be available at […]
More InfoHarmless, a film trailer
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More InfoMO Republican State Rep Comes Out of the Closet
Missouri State Representative Zach Wyatt lives in Novinger, MO and represents the 2nd District, encompassing Adair county, Putnam county, and a part of Sullivan county. At 27, he’s already served in the Air Force, and shortly he’ll be retiring from politics to move to Hawaii and study marine biology, taking advantage of his veteran education […]
More InfoYour Favorite Film (IN BED !!!)
Porn parodies are one of favorite sections of Spanky’s Video on North Lindbergh. I love how watching one of them keeps you from ever looking at the original the same way again! Lately, I’ve been able to watch a couple of parodies. One was fantastic (like its original) and one was a bust (like its […]
More InfoSavage U
There are certain segments of the sex positive movement and its sister movements (feminists, gay rights activists, trans rights activists, etc…) that hate Dan Savage. Savage has been giving sex advice for decades now, and because of his quick mouth, acerbic wit, and admittedly stinging sense of humor, it’s easy to go back twenty years, […]
More InfoEnding Sexual Assault St. Louis
One of the webmistresses of this tumblr tipped me off to it at a party a few weeks ago. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and over at SEX+STL, this is when we’ve begun to gear up for SlutWalk. Didn’t make it to the SlutWalk summit? Like us on Facebook to stay updated and offer […]
More InfoSEX+STL Discussion Group: Sex-Positive: What Does It Mean?
by David Wraith When we started Sex Positive St. Louis in 2010, some people heard the words “sex” and “positive” put together and assumed we were an organization for people living with HIV. Some suggested that we change the name. We decided early on that the term “sex positive” was so powerful and meaningful that […]
More InfoShow Me: Anthology Deadline Extended!
We’ve received some wonderful submissions for our upcoming St. Louis erotica anthology, Show Me, and we’re happy to announce that the deadline has been extended! You now have until July 1st, 2012 to submit your stories and photography! DO YOU HAVE SAINT LOUIS FANTASIES? SHOW ME. Send us your fiction or non-fiction submission of sex […]
More InfoFemale Ejaculation FAQ and Demo
A week from today is SEX+STL’s first-ever demo & discuss night! We hope that it will be one of many. Blow jobs, and sensation play are other topics that will likely pop up in the future. What do you want to see? What do you want to talk about. This is how Friday’s […]
More InfoTravis Mathews on Gay Stories, Media, and His Kickstarter Campaign
Travis Mathews is easily one of my favorite people. Whether it’s his documentary work like In Their Room or his narrative fiction work like I Want Your Love, Mathews is getting at the emotional core of a new generation, and reflecting it back for everyone else to see. Thanks to the magic of the internet, […]
More InfoPresident of Planned Parenthood on The Daily Show
Cecile Richards, the President of Planned Parenthood, appeared on The Daily Show this week. I haven’t had the chance to watch the full extended version of the interview yet, but if it’s all as good as the short part that ran on the air, it’s worth your time. Here are the two parts: The Daily […]
More InfoAsk the Man-Whore: The Insecure Virgin
by David Wraith Dear Man-Whore, I just want to say that I was inspired by the article you wrote about your penis size. Being a twenty-something guy who has always been insecure about his size six penis, I felt like that article was about me. Now if I can just work up the guts to […]
More InfoIn Defense of Smut: Kate Lovelady on Ethics and Sexuality
Some people think that sex positivity is just a fancy term for an ‘anything goes’ sexual ethic — that people who describe themselves as sex positive don’t care about ethics at all. That’s of course, not true. But sometimes it’s easy to shy away from paying attention to ethics and sex, because traditionally that has […]
More InfoWhy We Need Sex Ed – Fabulous Graphic
There’s a lot of talk about shutting down various reproductive rights in our country. This is based on fear and control coming from the patriarchy plaguing our society. (Patriarchy is the fear of the feminine and mature masculine.) These religious-based opinions are downright dangerous. Combating this ignorance are people like Jen and her team, who […]
More InfoOwnership of My Body
by David Wraith When I was in my 20s and weighed 168 pounds, I couldn’t pay someone to take pictures of me naked. Mostly because I was a college student, working in a video store and didn’t have the money. The strange trajectory of my life has brought me to a place where, as I […]
More InfoQueen of Hearts: Naked Dessert Bar
by David Wraith Two things in life that you don’t have to sell are sex and chocolate. They sell themselves; you merely have to offer them. So, you’d think that selling delicious, chocolate-covered desserts off the nearly naked bodies of some of St. Louis’s hottest bloggers and performers would be a no-brainer, right? One question? […]
More InfoQueen of Hearts Update
Online ticket sales are now closed for the Queen of Hearts party, but don’t let that stop you! Tickets will still be available at the door! Come join us for what the Riverfront Times says is “sure to be the freakiest fundraiser of the year!”
More InfoPlanned Parenthood’s upcoming Sex Trivia Night
There are still a few tables available at Planned Parenthood’s upcoming fundraiser, Sex Trivia Night. While the SEX+STL table is full, we would love to see this event sell out. Unless you’ve been living in a cave, you know that the past few weeks have seen an onslaught of attacks on women’s reproductive rights. We […]
More InfoTypography Porn
Penguin Classics recently released a new translation of Vatsyayana’s Kama Sutra. I must say that, despite have little interest in reading the book in the past, the new design makes me wish I owned a copy: The porno-typography is the work of illustrator Malika Favre, and the new edition “offers a compelling modern translation of […]
More InfoI Fucked David Wraith: Lee’s Story
by Lee Harrington The first time I went on a date with David, I thought it was going to be a booty call. I had visions of lips on lips (as there had been earlier that night), hips on hips, his cock pumping in and out of me… But yeah, that did not happen. […]
More InfoTwo New Comic Releases Face Sexuality Head On
Today is a pretty big day for socially-and-sexually relevant comic books. Anyone who is/loves/sleeps with/knows a comic reader knows that Wednesday is New Comics Day, but you might not know exactly what’s hitting the shelves at your local comic store, or how relevant these stories are. I’ll admit that while I knew one of these […]
More InfoOh, No! James Deen Makes Girls Like Porn!
I know that this ABC Nightline report wasn’t supposed to make me happy, but it did: video platformvideo managementvideo solutionsvideo player “It’s your fault that people are looking at you!” “…and?” Maybe I have the same taste in straight porn as teenage girls, but James Deen is one of the few male-porn-stars-from-straight-porn that I actually […]
More InfoKomen Foundation reinstates funding for Planned Parenthood
Via The Atlantic: “Facing a revolt among donors and supporters, Susan G. Komen For the Cure has just announced it has reversed its decision to de-fund Planned Parenthood. “One day, public relations scholars — if such a species exists — will make this week’s events at the Susan G. Komen For the Cure foundation a […]
More InfoSEX+STL Stands With Planned Parenthood
News recently broke that the Susan G. Komen Foundation was pulling $700,000 worth of funding from Planned Parenthood, money that was used to give women access to affordable or free breast cancer screenings. This is just another reminder that the fight for reproductive rights is an ongoing struggle, and that the people who need family […]
More InfoI Fucked David Wraith: Wink’s Story
Editor’s Note: This guest post by my friend and occasional lover, Wink, is the first in the “I Fucked David Wraith” series. Wink and I met at Beat Me in St. Louis and bonded over the fact that we both suffer from panic attacks and are wary of large crowds. by Wink Ever hear the […]
More InfoTopless in Toronto
by Tastyleisti Editor’s Note: Last year, National Go Topless Day went largely uncelebrated in St. Louis. In our defense, fifty percent of our leadership was out of the country or embroiled in a child custody battle, the other fifty percent doesn’t have breasts. In the spirit of changing things in 2012, here’s a guest post by local blogger Tastyleisti. […]
More InfoThe False Body Dichotomy
If you’re on any sort of social network, chances are pretty good that you’ve come across the following image, or one like it: If you’re like me, the first time you saw it, the first thing you thought was “Damn straight!” This has been the most prominent reaction that I’ve seen in the numerous comment […]
More InfoSex Positive St. Louis is Excited to Announce: Queen of Hearts
Saturday, February 25th, 2012 at The Absinthe Bar @ Lola 14th & Washington (enter from Washington Avenue) 7pm-10pm $20 admission. Advance tickets available at TicketWeb.com, or at any SEX+STL event. Free Food Drink Specials DJ Sweets Magicians, Naked Juggling, Tarot Card Readings Naked Sushi, Violet Wand Demonstrations And celebrity guests, Cooper & Marilyn from LifeOnTheSwingset.com […]
More InfoGateway Burners and Arch Reactor Present: Fire & Ice, Jan. 21st
by David Wraith Most people are at least somewhat familiar with Burning Man, the annual festival in the Nevada desert that culminates with the burning of a giant effigy. However, few people outside of the Burning Man community are familiar with regional “burns,” or the smaller, Burning Man inspired events that occur all over […]
More InfoHow To Tell a True Porn Story
One of the lessons I’m going to give you in my writing talk tomorrow is a simple and important one: sit your ass in the chair and write. Ironically, I missed my own personal deadline for writing and posting this blog, so perhaps this is an important lesson in why I’m not perfect. Tomorrow’s event […]
More InfoHypnoGasm: Trisha’s Story
Ed Note: On Monday we interviewed Eric Kendall, hypnotist. On Wednesday we featured Robin’s story. Today is Trisha’s turn! When I first asked Trisha to share her HypnoGasm story, she asked for it to be posted anonymously, which I was happy to do. But a few minutes later, she emailed me again, declaring, “on second […]
More InfoBig Ups, Mad Props and Sincere Thank-You’s
by David Wraith SEX+STL started in late 2010, so 2011 represents our first full calendar year of existence. As the year draws to a close, I want to reflect on the fact that it takes way more than four people to keep even a small, not for profit, unlanded, grassroots organization like SEX+STL going strong. […]
More InfoHypnoGasm: R’s Story
Ed Note: On Monday we interviewed Eric Kendall, a sex hypnotist. SEX+STL volunteer R shares her very personal experience. I’ve always been interested in hypnosis and I’m also interested in sex, so when I saw that Shameless Grounds was hosting something called “HypnoGasm”, I knew I had to convince my boyfriend it was the perfect […]
More InfoCapturing Your Sexy Self on Film
Or digitally anyway. “X has tagged you in a photo” – is a Facebook link that I never click. I generally hate pictures of myself – my face always seems to be shiny and I’m convinced that I’m fatter with every picture. The idea of having pictures of myself is great, and it’s fun for […]
More InfoYou Are Getting Horny: An Interview with Eric Kendall, Sex Hypnotist
I heard there was a sex hypnosis show at Shameless Grounds a while back, and was totally bummed I missed it! So I tracked down the hypnotist and asked him a bunch of questions. Eric Kendall offers “HypnoGasms” – you can check out his website (currently under construction) Q: Is it fair to say you […]
More InfoTaboo at The Hustler Club
by David Wraith The St. Louis BDSM scene had kind of a boom and bust year in 2011. FLOG, the fourteen year strong monthly play party, took an indefinite hiatus and later resurfaced as a non-play, social event. We saw the rise and fall of the much beloved Charenton Social Club as well as the […]
More Info2011: The SEX+STL Year in Review
by David Wraith SEX+STL has been around just over a year and 2011 has been our first full calendar year of existence. Not to break our arms patting ourselves on the back, but I think we’ve accomplished a lot for a young, unlanded organization with no money, just some really dedicated people and a town […]
More InfoOn Polyamory: Ashley’s Take
Two weeks ago, I posted an essay called On Polyamory from my friend, Christina, and I promised to share with you two more essays: one by Christina’s husband and one by his girlfriend, Ashley. I meant for this to be a weekly series, but prepping for Christmas last week sucked up so much time that […]
More InfoFleshtivus Goes Viral
by David Wraith Not sure if “going viral” is the best phrase to use with regard to a clothing optional event put on by a sexuality organization, but that seems to be the case with our little Clothing Optional Meet Up, “Fleshtivus.” After Chad Garrison’s preview and follow-up posts on The Riverfront Times blog and […]
More InfoHow to Throw a Clothing Optional Meet Up
by David Wraith Clothing Optional Meet-Ups (COMUs) may be the most popular regular event thrown by SEX+STL. People want to be naked and be around other naked people. Not only do we always get a great turn out here in St. Louis, but we also get a lot of interest from people in other cities […]
More InfoHappy Holidays! Love, Buck
Recently I was at Handlebar on Manchester, talking with somebody about drag shows and she mentioned that she wished that she could see an all-king show here in St. Louis. I looked at her, shocked. “What about Monday nights next door?”, I blurted, referring to Novak’s weekly king shows. She hadn’t heard of St. Louis’ […]
More InfoI Fucked David Wraith
“Somehow, the fact that your life has now brought you to the point where you actually just sent out an email asking if anyone who has slept with you could please write it up on a blog, doesn’t surprise me. I knew this day would come.” Have you had sex with me? Do […]
More InfoNaked Bodies
By Ginger Bangalore Editor’s Note: I don’t impress easily (in fact, I’m an opinionated prick) so when I like something, it’s worth mentioning. This an abridged version of a post on my new favorite local blog, The Rambling Method by Ginger Bangalore. Ginger is a blogger, burlesque performer with the Thunder Kittens, and a burgeoning sex posivite […]
More InfoOn Polyamory: A Guest Post
Recently, a friend of a friend wrote a blog post called “Adventures in Polyamory,” about his relationship with our mutual friend, Christina. On the way to her house I asked her where her husband was that night. “At home” came the thoughtless reply. Oh fuck. And like that we were walking into her house. Within […]
More InfoThe 35-Year-Old Virgin
by David Wraith My friend “Lisette” (not her real name) has a beautiful face, a gorgeous head of hair and (although she’s loathe to admit it) a pretty kick-ass body. She’s smart, well read, witty and charming. I’ve been trying to get in her pants for over twenty years, to no avail. I am comforted, […]
More InfoFrom Cage to Erotic Den: Esther Perel’s ‘Mating in Captivity’
Sex is a state of grace. In a cage it can’t take place. Break the cage, then start in and try. -D.H. Lawrence Esther Perel, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in intercultural relationships, delves into the question of maintaining passion in long-term relationships. She sees the challenge here as one of fostering the closeness that intimacy […]
More InfoEthical Polyamory in the Age of AIDS (and Other STIs)
by David Wraith This post is inspired by World AIDS Day and this post on The Beautiful Kind website. Those of you who know me have probably heard me refer to myself as a “free range, poly man-whore.” By that I mean that I am polyamorous, but not part of a closed poly circle or […]
More InfoSo Thankful
Here is what I am thankful for this holiday season: 1. My extended family My entire family knows who I am, what I am about, and accepts me. I am surrounded by love. 2. My partner He knows me better than I do. He soaks up my anxieties and keeps me sane. He’s so magnificent, […]
More InfoChasing Midori
by David Wraith Note: This is part two of my “I’m in Love with Midori” series. Part one can be read here. If you ask Midori where she lives, she’ll probably tell you that her mail is delivered to San Francisco, but she lives on an airplane. As a full time, traveling sex educator, Midori’s […]
More InfoShow Me: Erotic St. Louis Anthology
Last night, at the incredibly successful Sex Positive St. Louis Out Loud (if you weren’t there, you should feel bad), SEX+STL announced our new project, Show Me: an erotic anthology of stories set in St. Louis. We’re looking for prose, poetry, fiction, non-fiction, and photography. Check out our submissions call: DO YOU HAVE SAINT LOUIS […]
More InfoI’m in Love with Midori
by David Wraith I’m not sure when I first became aware of Midori, but I’m sure it was some time in the mid to late 90s. Back then she was known as Fetish Diva Midori. I’m not sure when or why she dropped the “Fetish Diva.” Perhaps like P. Diddy’s “P”, she thought it was […]
More InfoKeeping up with A Billion Wicked Thoughts
Things have been crazy busy in my world lately, and I’ve missed lots of events. The one I was saddest to miss was the first-ever SEX+STL book club at the end of October. Of course being out of town didn’t stop me from reading the October selection, and I found myself in for a fun […]
More InfoSEX+STL Out Loud: Author, Marie Haynes
by David Wraith Some say the first rule of writing is “write what you know.” If this is true, then it’s safe to assume that St. Louis area author, Marie Haynes, knows sex, sadomasochism and… food. Her novel, Tasting Pleasure, is the tale of an American expatriate trying to launch a catering company in Great Britain. […]
More InfoTONIGHT: Is There a Sacred Dimension to Human Sexuality?
by Johnny Murdoc Tonight, Ben Schuldt’s Responsible Public Debate and The Ethical Society of St. Louis are hosting a debate, “Is there a sacred dimension to human sexuality?” SEX+STL’s Anna Bent will debate Matthew Anderson, author of Earthen Vessels: Why Our Bodies Matter to Our Faith and contributor to the blog Mere Orthodoxy. I’m genuinely […]
More InfoThe Dick Chronicles: In Summation
by David Wraith So, how was your month? Mine was interesting. Welcome to the fourth and final post in The Dick Chronicles. Although, SEX+STL co-founder, Anna Bent did suggest making The Dick Chronicles an annual event where I write about my dick exclusively every October. Call it, “Dicktober!” Before I go any further, I […]
More InfoMeet Michael, Your Friendly Neighborhood Repulsed Asexual
Oct 23-29 is Asexual Awareness Week! Meet Michael, another representative from the Asexual Awareness Movement. Kendra: What is asexuality? Michael: Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. Both the words “sexual” and “attraction” are vitally important here. The latter underlies the fact that the label is independent of any type of behaviour: it is possible […]
More Info(A)sexuality: The Making of a Movement
Oct 23-29 is Asexual Awareness Week! That’s right now! To celebrate, SEX+STL refrained from all sexual activity this week. Just kidding. Actually, we hosted a screening last week of the new documentary working the nationwide film festival circuit: Asexuality: The Making of a Movement. I like to joke that I’m the opposite of asexual. Does […]
More InfoMonday Night Movie Pick: Love Ranch
What keeps me going is that through all the lies, I know the truth. We had it. Him and me for a moment. Love and truth together. Finally. And forever. Hey, how many people can say that? – Grace Bontempo Terry Hackford’s 2010 drama takes its inspiration from Joe and Sally Conforte’s Mustang Ranch, the […]
More InfoThe Dick Chronicles: Stupid Dick Tricks
The stapler will make sense later, trust me. by David Wraith I remember the first really dumb thing I ever did with my dick. It had nothing to do with a woman I was sticking it in. It was at a meeting of an organization called PEP (People Exchanging Power) in the upper floor of […]
More InfoMeet Vlad Drăculea, Asexual
In honor of Asexuality Awareness Week Oct 23-39, SEX+STL hosted a screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement last night. It was quite the mindbender! I’ll post my thoughts on it next week, but for now, get to know Vlad Drăculea. Kendra: What is asexuality? Vlad: Asexuality is a sexual orientation where […]
More InfoMeet Melanie, An Asexual
In honor of Asexuality Awareness Week Oct 23-39, we ask Melanie, a woman who identifies as asexual, a few questions. SEX+STL will be hosting a screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement Tuesday, October 18, 7pm. We’ll let you know how it goes! Kendra: What is asexuality? Melanie: Asexuality is a sexual […]
More InfoThe Dick Chronicles: Projectile Dysfunction
by David Wraith Funny story: So, I’m on a first date with this girl I’d been crushing on for months. We go back to my place and after a lot of foreplay, I had what I thought was a reliable erection. Literally, the moment I put it in, it went limp. I didn’t get off […]
More InfoAn Interview With The Asexual Sexologist
Note: This interview from a few months ago is being republished in honor of Asexuality Awareness Week, which is October 23-29. SEX+STL will be hosting a free screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement Tuesday, October 18, 7pm at a private home theater in South City St. Louis. Please RSVP to me […]
More InfoOn Coming Out
Today is National Coming Out Day, so I’ve spent most of the morning reflecting on the idea of “coming out” and what that means. When I’ve written about the subject previously (see: “If you’re not out, you’re hurting us”), I’ve discussed the political ramifications of being out. I still believe that, over all, it’s those […]
More InfoThe Dick Chronicles: Size Matters
by David Wraith I read an article in a magazine a few years ago asserting that, in the single’s scene, a person’s worth is often reduced to two arbitrary numbers. For women, it’s their age and their weight. For men, it’s their annual income and penis size. Each number is often lied about, but […]
More InfoCity Jerks
One of the tiny—but beloved—joys that I have is experiencing a discussion about sex or sexuality in media that I wasn’t expecting, especially when it’s nuanced. Sunday night, my roommate and I decided to start watching Louie, Louis C.K.’s current sitcom, while we ate dinner. After a reasonably funny first episode, we decided to start […]
More InfoComing Soon! The Dick Chronicles
And, to get you in the mood for next week, check out this video by Mickey Avalon and the Dyslexic Speed-Readers:
More InfoSo long,”Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”
There’s little that I can say that isn’t being said by others, but I think that Homo Riot’s poster sums up my feelings best of all: (art by Homo Riot.) -Johnny Murdoc
More InfoThursday Music Video: Ani DiFranco, In or Out
-by Johnny Murdoc This song was a hugely reinforcing when I was in high school, not just when I was a little gay boy pretending I was bi, but when I came around to being cool with actually being homo. This song has such a wonderfully playful—but honest—attitude to it that I found really empowering: […]
More InfoDo All Real Women Have Curves?
by David Wraith I was trolling for naked pictures of my friends on FetLife, like I do, when I stumbled upon the picture to the right and the controversy it was causing. Lots of people were co-signing and amenning the sentiment, but a few people were expressing their displeasure with it. At some point in […]
More InfoYour Friday Morning Inspirational Poster
(I wish I could tell you exactly where this came from, but it popped up in my Tumblr feed uncredited. This (possibly NSFW) blog appears to be its source.)
More InfoThe Anti-Pickup Artist
by David Wraith I used to jokingly refer to myself as an “anti-pickup artist.” In my 20s this was meant to symbolize my abject failure with women. I made a fool out of myself chasing women who had no interest in me (to stalkerish proportions), I was clueless about how to flirt and oblivious to […]
More InfoDon’t Be It, Dream It
Natty Soltesz is one of the most prolific gay erotica writers that I know. His work has been included in several anthologies (many of which include the word “best” in the title) and he’s contributed dozens of stories to the Nifty Erotic Archives, where I first came across his work (pun possibly intended.) I’ve had […]
More InfoThe Randy Dandies find the Pearl: an interview with Mimi Le Yu
When I found out that Mimi Le Yu, one of my favorite burlesque performers, was fronting a new troupe called the Randy Dandies, I couldn’t keep away from their show Melons and Meat Sticks: a Dandy Backyard Burly-Q. It was one of the best shows I’ve every seen. The storyline was entertaining and better developed than […]
More InfoCosmocking
True Confession time: I read Cosmo sex advice for years. As my interest in women grew, and it was clear that Cosmo didn’t have any sex advice for queer girls (no kidding!), I stopped actually buying the dreck 9 or 10 years ago. Still, Ive been a faithful grocery-line reader until recently. Stopping even my […]
More InfoEthical Monogamy
by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]
More InfoCoffee Talk: Monogamy 101
Join SEX+STL today at 3:00pm at Shameless Grounds (click here for directions!) for Monogamy 101. We’ll discuss the nuts and bolts of making a one-on-one relationship function. Communication, fantasy, jealousy, fidelity—we’ll challenge all of your assumptions about what monogamy means. (photo by Johnny Murdoc. Yes, he’s aware that he’s using a photo of a poly […]
More InfoWatching Porn in Public
The first time I watched porn with other people, it was five years ago. My partner and I threw this party… Wait, that’s a lie. The first time I watched porn with another person was years before that. My best friend and I found a small box of porn films and we watched them together. […]
More InfoDan Savage’s New Threat for Presidential Hopeful Rick Santorum:
Funny, probably not serious (although we can always hope!), and definitely Not Safe For Work: Dan Savage’s New Threat to Rick Santorum from Dan Savage
More InfoSEX+STL Trivia, Tomorrow Night @ HandleBar
SEX+STL (that’s us!) and The Handlebar are teaming up to bring you a sexually charged trivia night. Teams of 1-4 sex scholars will be competing for a $50 gift certificate donated by TRX Tattoos on S. Grand. There is no entry fee—this party is completely free! (Although, you should plan on bringing some dough for […]
More InfoAfter SlutWalk
by David Wraith A couple days before SlutWalk, my friend and SEX+STL co-founder, Kendra Holliday expressed concern that participants would need aftercare following such an intense experience. Intellectually, I knew exactly want she meant, but I have to admit that on a gut level, I just didn’t get it. Maybe it’s because I’m a man. […]
More InfoManning Up with Christopher Sean Watson
by David Wraith “Men continue to control the narrative and experiences of women, which leads to violence being an acceptable form of control.” If there’s a man I know with feminist street-cred, it’s Christopher Sean Watson. When I met him, he was a field organizer for Amnesty International, but check out his CV: He was […]
More InfoClothing Optional Tweet Up – July 31st
The next Clothing Optional Tweet Up will be Sunday, July 31st from 3pm – 8pm. This one will be a pool party on a secluded property in Northern Florissant. This is a private event with a screened guest list and a limited number of people. People we know and or who have attended past SEX+STL […]
More InfoInterview with Henryk Ptasiewicz, Featured Artist
Get to know one of the featured artists from the SEX+STL June 29 Black and White event. Here is a SEX+STL interview with one of the most talented – and most humble – artists in St. Louis, Henryk Ptasiewicz. Kendra Holliday: You have such a unique accent! Can you give us a little background of […]
More InfoNobody does it like Roseanne
At the Black and White party last week, I briefly mentioned Roseanne to David Wraith, as part of a conversation about Sandra Bernhardt. Wraith noted that he never really got into Roseanne. While I’m certain there are thousands of people out there like Wraith, I’m just as certain that there are thousands of people out […]
More InfoIntention, Attention and Awareness: Figuring out Consent, pt. 2
Because you, and the world, deserve our full presence, our full attention, our full passion, and our fully engaged awareness. ~Lee Harrington The much-delayed part 2 to my first Figuring out Consent post! I’m so excited about the July 16th Slutwalk in St. Louis. I won’t get to be there myself, but it has me […]
More InfoStefon Beckons You to Black and White, June 29th
“Black and White: Indifference amongst Difference” looks to be an awesome party. But don’t just take our word for it, listen to this message from our city correspondent, Stefon: Black + White (mp3)
More InfoHow to Meet the Domme of Your Dreams: Part 3
by Mistress Simone Editor’s Note: This is part 3 of a 3 part series. Part 2 can be read here. Top Ten Submissives to Not Be: 1. Micro Manage Me: This sub wants a dominant to control every aspect of their life so they can relinquish responsibility for all. Calling me every five minutes asking […]
More InfoWriters are Sexy: Elva Maxine Beach
by David Wraith I adore Elva Maxine Beach! I first met her when we were both performing in a benefit she organized at The Way Out Club. She showed me her book, “Neurotica” and I immediately laid hands upon the woman and prayed for her salvation. Then I read the book and realized I should […]
More InfoBarack Obama, Gay Rights, and “Post-Mo”
Forgive me the stream-of-consciousness writing that is this blog post. I’ve spent the past few days writing an essay about Barack Obama’s progress on gay rights. It’s a frustrating task to undertake (especially in light of the events I’m about to write about). I like Obama and I think he’s made great strides in gay […]
More InfoHow to Meet the Domme of Your Dreams: Part 2
by Mistress Simone Editor’s Note: This is part 2 of a 3 part series. Part 1 can be read here. Turn-Ons: (God, I feel like a Penthouse Pet): Self Confidence: Not cockiness! Having self knowledge about what you like and dislike enough to communicate it. Wit: Not smart-asses or rudeness. A witty remark […]
More InfoJoin a kiss-in tomorrow at LUSH to support gay marriage!
I tend to have mixed feelings about corporate-led protests, but I’m pretty fond of LUSH, a bath and beauty products company that aims to eliminate waste in their products, and makes everything with vegetarian ingredients. For full disclosure, we (meaning several of SEX+STL’s co-founders) have a friend who works at LUSH as well (although, to […]
More InfoBodies, Bodies, Bodies! Gender-Inclusive Sex-Positivity
A guest post by Andy Semler If you were to peek into my bedroom window one evening, there’s a good chance you’d be greeted with the sight of two steamy-hot naked bodies (lucky you!). Mine: slender limbs, white skin, short hair, small breasts, hourglass waist. The other: muscular, white skin, short hair, large bone structure, […]
More InfoWorld Naked Bike Ride 2010
Last year’s World Naked Bike Ride: St. Louis was a bit of a revelation to me. There simply is no experience comparable to riding through the streets of your city with hundreds of other cyclists wearing costumes, underwear, or nothing. Tonight is World Naked Bike Ride 2011, so in order to stir up some excitement, […]
More InfoHow to Meet the Domme of Your Dreams: Part 1
by Mistress Simone A man’s own manner and character is what most becomes him. – Cicero Please keep in mind that the opinions expressed within this article are my own. You may not share them or agree, but I do hope you will listen and they will provide some enlightenment for how dominant women work. […]
More InfoMr. Missouri Leather 2011, DJ Kaiser
by David Wraith I ran into DJ Kaiser a few months ago at South City Diner, shortly after he’d started Bad Boys of St. Louis. Having only met him in passing, I thought we’d make small talk for a few minutes. We ended up talking for well over an hour about the sex positive atmosphere in St. […]
More InfoGay Pride Month
For the third year in a row, President Obama has declared June as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Pride Month. The story of America’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) community is the story of our fathers and sons, our mothers and daughters, and our friends and neighbors who continue the task of making our […]
More InfoThe Black and Lou Pride Ball
This Friday, June 10th, is the first ever Black and Lou Pride Ball. Our good friend DJ Kaiser is on the event committee and he gave us the low down. Be on the lookout this Thursday for my full length interview with DJ, the current Mr. Missouri Leather, on his impressive 9th place finish at […]
More InfoWorld Naked Bike Ride 2011 is Coming to St. Louis!
by David Wraith Some people love to ride their bicycles. Some people (like me) just love being naked. Every year since 2008, for one glorious summer night, cycling enthusiasts, enthusiastic nudists and everyone in between have come together for the World Naked Bike Ride St. Louis. If you live in St. Louis and riding a […]
More InfoMarch with SEX+STL in the Pride Parade!
Sex Positive St. Louis is looking for a few good humans to march with us in the 2011 PrideFest St. Louis Pride Parade, Sunday, June 26th. Benefits of Marching with SEX+STL Low Impact Cardiovascular Workout Exposure to Sunlight for Photosynthetic Purposes Fresh Air You Will Be 50% Sexier at the End of the March […]
More InfoHow Hedonistic? A conversation with artist and event coordinator Drew Digital
Tonight is SEX+STL’s fundraiser and happy hour, How Hedonistic? Growing on what we accomplished two months ago with our 7 Sexy Sins party, How Hedonistic? will have feature the artwork of three different artists, four DJs and an assortment of live nude models for artists to draw! Yesterday, I talked to Chris Worth, this morning […]
More InfoHow Hedonistic? Artist Profile: Marty Henderson
Tonight is SEX+STL’s fundraiser and happy hour, How Hedonistic? Growing on what we accomplished two months ago with our 7 Sexy Sins party, How Hedonistic? will have feature the artwork of three different artists, four DJs and an assortment of live nude models for artists to draw! Yesterday, I talked to Chris Worth, one of […]
More InfoHow Hedonistic? Artist Profile: Christopher RJ Worth
Tomorrow night is SEX+STL’s fundraiser and happy hour, How Hedonistic? Growing on what we accomplished two months ago with our 7 Sexy Sins party, How Hedonistic? will have feature the artwork of three different artists, four DJs and an assortment of live nude models for artists to draw! In order to drum up some excitement, […]
More InfoLet’s Make it a ‘Hell Yes!’: Figuring Out Consent, Pt. 1
by Anna Bent Author’s note: just to be clear, this discussion of consent is about cultural, relational and community standards, not legal ones. Solutions regarding the morass that is the justice system’s (in)ability to deal with sexual assault is WAY above my paygrade. Anyway, I’m more interested in figuring out ways of relating that might […]
More InfoDine Out for Life, Support STL Effort for AIDS!
Today is Dining Out for Life, an annual nationwide fundraiser to support local AIDS programs and services. In St. Louis, those services are provided by St. Louis Effort for AIDS, and if you visit one of the dozens of participating restaurants today, at least 25% of your bill will go to STLEFA. Dining Out for […]
More InfoQFest Film Reviews by Shän
What did you see at QFest this year? Annually, QFest brings some of the best in LGBT-centered films to St. Louis. If , like me, you are pretty bummed about having had to miss it, then Shän Lewis’ enlightening reviews below is just the ticket for keeping up and filling your wishlist with DVDs. See […]
More InfoSusie Bright: St. Louis, I Do Mind Dying
by Susie Bright Ed Note: This is an excerpt from a blog post that appeared on susiebright.com, August 21st, 2005. Republished with permission. You may remember last year, I wrote about visiting St. Louis for a Romance Novel convention. I talked about the Romancers, but not about the city of St. Louis, which was actually the more […]
More InfoI’m in Love with Susie Bright
by David Wraith I have a confession to make. I’m in love with Susie Bright. It’s cool, my girlfriend already knows. My love affair with Susie has gone on for almost twenty years and Susie has been vaguely aware of it herself for at least the last seven. I’m not sure who introduced me to her, […]
More InfoSlut Walk in Toronto
It’s awesome when somebody’s dumbassery leads people to come together and address an issue so loudly that the good drowns out the original bad. Last January, a police officer was doing a sexual assault prevention training at York University in Toronto and opined that “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.” In protest […]
More InfoWebster Drag Ball 2011
This time several years ago, I was running around U-City thrift stores looking for the perfect suit, shirt and hat. Missouri Council for the Blind came through, as it so often does, and I got a shirt for a surprisingly good price at Rag-A-Rama. My date loaned me his hat. There was a lot of […]
More Info“Dear Sex Worker Hater:”
Today we’d like to share an excerpt from Maggie Mayhem’s recent editorial about the “PornWikiLeaks” scandal. From The Daily Beast: “…Porn Wikileaks, a website that became infamous on Wednesday after Gawker.com ran a story about the renegade website’s attempts to expose the identities of thousands of porn performers. (Gawker also implied that Porn Wikileaks has […]
More InfoOn Barebacking, Part 2 by Lars Eighner
Back in August of 2010, writer Lars Eighner posted a couple of essays about (gay) bareback sex and (gay) bareback porn that I’d like to share. Thankfully, Eighner released the essays to the public domain, so a few weeks ago I posted the first part, and today I’m posting the second. The reason Eighner’s essays […]
More InfoSusie Bright is Coming to St. Louis
Author, educator and sex positive pioneer, Susie Bright will be in St. Louis on April 17th & 18th. For those of you who don’t know, Susie Bright has been writing about sex, alternative lifestyles, BDSM, porn and polyamory for more than two decades. She was the founding editor of the On Our Backs, the first lesbian sex […]
More InfoWomen and Casual Sex Pt. 2: Respecting Conscious Choices
A lot gets made of women having casual sex. Often it’s assumed that women don’t really want to have casual sex, but engage in it as a (misguided) strategy to start something long term.But Helen Fisher quote a study that asked 515 people why they went into a hookup, 50 percent of women and 52 […]
More InfoWomen and Casual Sex, Pt. 1: Self-Discovery Through Yahoo! Profiles
While here in Germany I am pretty much celibate. That’s for a few reasons, all of which are boring, but one of them is that I’m not that interested in casual sex. This surprises me. I like casual sex. And I have had very good experiences with it. Not only has it not been damaging […]
More InfoGuess Who’s Coming to Beat Me: Michael Sol
Rope is simple; it’s the layers that create intricacy.
More InfoPretty Abstract and Very Loud: St. Louis’s Own Drew Digital
by Johnny Murdoc Drew Thompson (aka Drew Digital) is a 28 year old artist from St. Louis and SEX+STL’s latest collaborator in our quest to foster a sex positive environment in the city. His work brings digital artwork alive in a way that has to be seen to be believed, one that can’t be captured […]
More InfoOn Barebacking by Lars Eighner
Back in August of 2010, writer Lars Eighner posted a couple of essays about (gay) bareback sex and (gay) bareback porn that I’d like to share. Thankfully, Eighner released the essays to the public domain, so I’m going to post them whole cloth over the next couple of weeks. The reason Eighner’s essays appeal to […]
More InfoBrent’s Oral Exam: A Cute, Effective Safer Sex PSA
by Johnny Murdoc I’ve been thinking a lot about safer sex, lately, especially when it comes to the gay community. I’ve been especially torn between my role as a sex educator, and someone who strongly endorses safer sex practices, and my belief that people have the responsibility to make decisions for themselves and should have […]
More InfoTales of the City with the Queer Book Club
This is a guest post by Anita Fitzwater. UPDATE: The book club meeting has been moved from Shameless Grounds to Mokabe’s. Check below for the time, date, and new location! Who the hell am I? Well, I’m someone who’s been involved with the Bisexual Alliance of St. Louis (BASL) for the past two years or so […]
More InfoJoin SEX+STL Tonight at Shameless Grounds and Naughti Gras 4!
There’s a lot of sexy goings-on this weekend here in Saint Louis, but one event stands out: Naughti Gras 4, Saint Louis’s largest erotic art show. Come out and see erotic art from dozens of great artists, including the work of SEX+STL’s own David Wraith, and SEX+STL friends Molly Algernon and Digital Drew! On top […]
More InfoSEX POSITIVE: A Documentary About the Birth of Safer Sex
I just finished watching Sex Positive, a documentary about Richard Berkowitz, who (along with singer and activist Michael Callen and physician Joseph Sonnabend) is largely responsible for the safer sex movement as we know it. The film is probably most interesting because it’s complex. Berkowitz isn’t portrayed as a flawless hero and his fight […]
More InfoThe Vasectomy Dialogues: Justin’s Story
Justin (and yes, that his real name), is a local 30-something guy, who’s stays pretty involved in the polyamory and sexpositive communities. If you come to one of our events, you just might see him around. His openess about his experience has provided a meaningful close to our three-part Vasectomy Dialogues series. Settling down with […]
More InfoThe Vasectomy Dialogues: Chatting with Michael
Recently, I was able to catch up with Michael and he was kind enough to be open about how he made the decision to get a vasectomy and his thoughts on the experience. He’s 38, self-employed and living in St. Louis. He got his vasectomy in Fall 2009 at Planned Parenthood’s North County location. Q:Would […]
More InfoWhat Can You Say In America?
At the intersection of morality and commerce we impose our morals on financial decisions and use finances to justify moral decisions.
More InfoIs PIV the New Oral?
by Anna In days of yore, when reproduction and male orgasm were the primary goals of heterosexual sex, ‘the main event’ was the penis moving in and out of the vagina. Indeed, even today what most people mean when they say ‘sex’ is penetration (of a penis, into a vagina). That’s problematic in so many […]
More InfoAudio Erotica
As promised in my review of sexaudia.com, I’m returning to their selection of sexy audio story providers. At Nobilis Erotica, you find a collection of podcasts with stories that lean heavily in the direction of sci-fi and fantasy. But that is where the commonalities stop. The stories present all kinds of scenarios and run the […]
More InfoRadical Participation or “There are No Fags There”
Ed note: This post originally appeared on the personal website of author and educator Lee Harrington: passionandsoul.com. It is re-posted here with his permission. Lee will be speaking at Washington University’s Sex Week. Bristol Palin sends her regrets. by Guest Blogger, Lee Harrington. I hear it time and time again. That dungeon or event or play space has no […]
More InfoCoffee Talk: Poly 101, February 13th at Mokabe’s
Are you thinking about opening your relationship? Are you poly curious? Are you new to the polyamorous lifestyle? Do you have questions about polyamory that you don’t know who to ask? Are you a poly veteran with wisdom to share? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then please join SEX+STL at Mokabe’s […]
More InfoSex and the Snowpocalypse
Most of Saint Louis is covered in what looks to be snow but is actually tiny ice pellets, with the weathermen promising vast amounts of snow later. All around the STL-based blogosphere, people are writing, Facebooking, and Tweeting about the oncoming Snowpocalypse (also: Snowmageddon, Icepocalypse, or—as the National Weather Center is warning—Blizzard) and SEX+STL is […]
More InfoSEX+STL Goes to the RFT St. Louis Web Awards
SEX+STL attended the first ever Riverfront Times St. Louis Web Awards in honor of or nomination for Best Sex Blog and to support our category’s winner, SEX+STL co-founder Kendra Holliday of The Beautiful Kind. More pictures from the event here.
More InfoWhy I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 3 of 3
This is part 3 of a 3 part series. Part 2 can be read here. by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone Now to the reasons I am a dominant woman active in BDSM.I love men and women. I enjoy their reactions to the activities I administer upon them. The power exchange between active parties in a scene […]
More InfoBad Boys of St. Louis
Bad Boys of St. Louis is an announcement list for local events for men who are interested in playing with other men. The list is organized by DJ, a South City resident, PHD student, and teacher. “I teach college to pay the bills,” he says. I first met DJ at a SEX+STL coffee talk just […]
More InfoNormal Bodies?
by Anna During puberty, one of the big questions people ask themselves is: is my body normal? That question often continues into adulthood. That’s no surprise, especially in cultures that place a premium on ‘normal’ physicality and sexuality, but that represent only a narrow range of variation within this normality. Add to that few natural […]
More InfoGuess Who’s Coming to Beat Me!
by David Wraith For the uninitiated, Beat Me in St. Louis (commonly known as “Beat Me” or “BMSL”) is an annual BDSM convention now in its fourteenth year. Beat Me draws attendees, vendors and sex educators from across the country. Instructors teach the tricks of their trade during daytime classes, and guests can then try out […]
More InfoWhy I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 2 of 3
This is part 2 of a 3 part series. Part 1 can be read here. by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone Along with BDSM as a sexual activity may come social activism, community awareness and political lobbying. These are all goals the original feminists strove for in the Suffrage movement. It was not simply enough to obtain […]
More InfoShut Up and Love the Rain: A Personal Look at Being Queer
Way back in my introduction, I mentioned that I was a print fetishist. Few things excite me like a well-designed book, an exciting publishing experiment, or the results of an artist’s self-published endeavors. That last category is what I want to talk about today (and probably a lot in the future.) If you’re not familiar […]
More InfoThe Bi-deology Project
The Bi-deology Project came across my radar immediately after Christmas when I was decompressing from a stressful family holiday by catching up on sex blog reading. I found Twanna Hines’ column on non-black men dating black women and wove my way from link to link to the Bi-deology Project, a joint video project that she […]
More InfoWhy I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 1 of 3
Hi, sexuals. A few weeks back, I did this interview with kink educator and pro-domme, Mistress Simone. For the next three weeks I will yield by blog on SEX+STL to the Mistress and her wisdom on the subject of being a feminist and a fem-dom. Enjoy, and I’ll see you in February. – David […]
More InfoShameless Grounds Opening Late February!
Ready for some great local news? A wife and husband team are going into business for the good of the community. Here is Andy Mueller giving us the scoop! Kendra Holliday: What’s this I hear about a sex-positive community center coffee shop opening up in St. Louis? Andy Mueller: Yes, you heard right. It’s called […]
More InfoGreta Christina at Skepticon 3
A few months back, Kendra and I both attended Skepticon 3, a Springfield, MO convention dedicated to skepticism. I think that Kendra and I both agree that one of the best things about the convention itself (excluding anything that may have happened in hotel rooms in between speakers and platforms) was Greta Christina‘s talk, Atheism […]
More InfoVanilla Whipped up Right
by Anna One criticism of the sex positive movement is that along with setting up the norm that people should be having sex, and that sex should be relatively unproblematic, it also, in an effort to be ‘pro-kink’ tends to set up the expectation that everyone has some kind of fetish, or at least a […]
More InfoBody Positive for the New Year
by David Wraith I need to get back in shape. I’m so out of shape that I almost take pride in saying that I need to get back in shape, because the strategic use of the word “back” presupposes that I actually was in shape at one point in my life, while remaining suitably vague […]
More InfoFinding Peace at The Facility
by Johnny Murdoc In lieu of a blog post today, I’m going to direct you to an essay of mine that was published this week. It’s my account of SEX+STL’s first fundraiser, and I think it’s relevant to share here for a handful of reasons. The most important is that we have another fundraiser coming […]
More InfoNo, No, I Am Indeed Laughing at You
by Anna Karl: Not funny ‘ha-ha’, funny queer. Vaughan Cunningham: Well that’s a very offensive way to put it. You shouldn’t say that. You were taught that, weren’t you? -Slingblade (1996) One of the ways in which alternative sexual practices get marginalized is to make them the butt of jokes, to create the kind of […]
More InfoLet’s Talk About Sex, Baby: Part Two
by Johnny Murdoc In the last part, I wrote about primary method that my partner, Evan, and I used to facilitate discussions about sex, which involved regularly reading the weekly Savage Love column to one another. Reading about the real-world sexual issues of Love’s audience provided a great framework for discussing sexuality on a regular […]
More InfoBend Over and Say Hello to Mistress Simone
by David Wraith So, you saw the cover of Lee Harrington’s book Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond, and you asked yourself, who is that hot domme on the cover? Well, mystery solved: she is none other than nationally renowned kink educator, Mistress Simone. Mistress Simone divides her time between St. Louis […]
More InfoRight On, Taylor Momsen…
by Johnny Murdoc So, I know it’s somewhat irresponsible to take a break from posting the next installment of a series—especially when it’s only the second installment—but I wanted to share this quote. (Also, I may have not actually written the second installment, yet. I promise(!) it will come around next week, though.) However, I […]
More InfoInternet Hasn’t Killed the Radio Star: Sexaudia.com
by Anna After reading Johnny Murdoc’s post, I found myself wishing that there was somewhere that I could find lots of great sexuality podcasts in one place. Well, when I started surfing around sexaudia.com, my wish was granted. Sexaudia is a sexuality-focused web radio station. This means that anytime you can ‘tune in’ and hear […]
More InfoWhere’s My Prostate? Or How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love the Flood
by Anna One of the subjects that has been floating in the background of my sexual conciousness is female ejaculation. I started ejaculating about four years ago, and it’s been puzzling and a little frustrating that I have so little control over when and how much I squirt. Bringing this to the fore was a […]
More InfoThat Poly Guy: Part 2, My Poly History
by David Wraith Hi, Sexuals. When people ask me how long I’ve been poly, I tell them nine years. This is technically true. I’m not even sure I knew the word “polyamory” before 2001. But the truth is, I’ve almost always been this way. When I was 11, I was introduced to “Rachel,” the resident […]
More InfoLet’s Talk About Sex, Baby: Part One
by Johnny Murdoc Whenever sex educators or advice columnists are confronted with problems between partners, their first recommendation is going to be communication. Recommending communication is easy because it’s true: there’s honestly nothing more crucial for correcting problems or making a change within a romantic or sexual relationships than communication. We all know that we […]
More InfoThat Poly Guy: Part 1
by David Wraith Happy Anniversary, a film starring you-know-who. Hi, Sexuals. The biggest surprise I’ve gotten in the brief period since Sex+STL got started is that I have received almost no questions about BDSM or nudism (two topics I know a bit about). Almost all the questions that have come to me personally, in person […]
More InfoDepartment of Defense Releases Major Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Survey
by Johnny Murdoc Today should prove to be an important step forward for gay rights, as far as gays serving in the military is concerned. Just a short while ago, the U.S. Department of Defense released the findings of their thorough survey regarding the feelings of military personnel toward the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t […]
More InfoWhere do you draw your line? Is the grass better fertilized on the other side?
by Anna When people negotiate what they want to do in bed, or discuss what they like sexually, there’s usually talk about lines. There are lines that must not be crossed, lines ok for nudging and pushing and lines that move around with the time of the month. Some lines are just fences to keep anything […]
More InfoBend Over Boyfriends… We’ve Got You Pegged.
by David Wraith “Bend Over Boyfriend,” written and performed by Elva Maxine Beach My junior year in high school, a friend of mine came to me with great concern on her face. She’d heard something about me and wanted to know if it was true. She looked me in the eye and asked if I […]
More InfoSex Positive Podcasts
by Johnny Murdoc So. Today nearly conspired to keep me from blogging again, much like last Tuesday conspired to keep me from blogging last week. But I have persevered and you, dear readers, get to reap the rewards! Or, not, since this feels a little rushed. Hopefully, in the near future, I can get back […]
More Info“Sex at Dawn”: or Why I Prefer to Get It On at Sunset
By Anna SEX AT DAWN: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality (July 1, 2010, 384 pages; $25.99; ISBN 978-0-06-170780-3 Sex at Dawn has been a bit of a hit in the sex positive community due to dramatic support by sex advice guru Dan Savage. PoDGE discussed it last weekend at their monthly meeting, and as […]
More InfoThe Frugal, Safe Licking (Sucking, Nibbling) of Holes
by Anna Note: we at SEX+STL are not medical professionals. We do, however, spend a fair amount of time engaging in responsible, critical research in order to answer your questions as best as we can. Read and use your own best judgment. Question: Dental dams – which works better: a cut-open glove or plastic wrap? […]
More InfoGreat Moments in St. Louis History: The Arousal Show
by David Wraith Watching Kendra and Beast’s scene from her Coming Out Party reminded me of the last time I really had my mind blown by a sex positive event in St. Louis. Ten years ago I was coming back from a trip to the west coast. I was lamenting being back in the conservative […]
More InfoSex Positive… MTV?
by Johnny Murdoc If you watch MTV these days, you can be forgiven for not realizing that the network was once on the vanguard of promoting safe and healthy sexuality. Shows like Jersey Shore do little to inspire the sex-positive conversation that we’d all like to see happen. During the 1990’s, when I was lucky […]
More InfoFat Phobia – Not Sexy, Not Positive
by Anna One incident during last weekend’s Porn Festival really made me think. It happened while watching a few scenes from Tristan Taormino’s Rough Sex 2. Great film. You should see it. Anyway, it was a midnight showing, and and several groups of people wandered in late. One group of Germans sat down behind me […]
More InfoSEX+STL Happy Hour, Tonight at Foam!
Don’t forget that tonight is SEX+STL’s Happy Hour at Foam Coffee & Beer! Come out and meet the founders of SEX+STL! Enjoy the coffee, beer, and eclectic aesthetics of Foam in the Cherokee neighborhood! This is our first public event and we would love to meet with everyone and talk about the future of […]
More InfoChoiceArt 2010: Raising Funds for a Good Cause
by Johnny Murdoc SEX+STL’s Friday night shindig isn’t the only fundraiser happening this week. On Saturday, FriendsbyChoice is hosting ChoiceArt 2010, an art auction to benefit Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood is an invaluable resource in the St. Louis area. They provide health services and education programs designed to give teens and adults the information they […]
More InfoFriendly reminder: GET OUT AND VOTE!
Today is voting day. That means you should be out and voting if you’re legally and physically able to do so. If you need information regarding candidates and issues, check out The St. Louis Post-Dispatch’s Voter’s Guide. You can find your polling center at this website.
More InfoCourtney Trouble at Berlin’s Porn Film Festival
Queer is as hard to define as it is to ignore. – Courtney Trouble Some NSFW images below – scroll carefully. While St. Louis has been my home for the last 5 years, I will be spending the next 9 months in a small town in north-central Germany. Recently I had the good great immense […]
More InfoI Am NOT a Sex Addict – Part 2
by David Wraith Hi, sexuals. Last week, I made this post regarding accusations that I’m a sex addict. Now, let’s talk about the nature of addiction. While I believe that physical addictions are limited to things like alcohol and drugs, I do believe that one can be psychologically addicted to just about anything; food, shopping, […]
More InfoGetting Turned On by Levi Johnston’s Blues
by Johnny Murdoc (Warning/annoucement: this post contains links to websites that should be considered unsafe for work or minors.) A few weeks ago Ben Folds released a new album called Lonely Avenue, created in collaboration with novelist Nick Hornby, who wrote all of the lyrics. All in all I’ve fallen in love with the album […]
More InfoBC Recession-Style, Pt. 2
by Anna Note: There are two brands of hormonal Emergency Contraception (EC) on the market now -Plan B (which was the only brand out, when I needed the stuff) and Ella (which was approved by the FDA in August 2010). I am using EC interchangeably with ‘Plan B’ because I’m more familiar with Plan B […]
More InfoI Am NOT a Sex Addict – Part 1
by David Wraith I’m a big fan of Iranian American filmmaker Caveh Zahedi. He worked under the mainstream radar for years, making confessional documentaries for the film festival/ movie geek crowd (people like me). Then one night, to my great surprise, I turned on the radio and heard Caveh being interviewed on Loveline with Dr. […]
More InfoSEX+STL Happy Hour @ Foam Coffee and Bar
SEX+STL is happy to announce our first public Happy Hour on Thursday, November 4th, 2010! Come out and meet three of the founders of SEX+STL (Unfortunately Anna, in her current role as foreign correspondent, will be unable to attend.) Enjoy the coffee, beer, and eclectic aesthetics of Foam in the Cherokee neighborhood! This is our […]
More Info“If you’re not out, you’re hurting us.”
by Johnny Murdoc The word “out,” when applied to a sexual minority, has a lot of implications and, honestly, a lot of layers. One of the most important things that I read years ago was that coming out isn’t just one thing that you do, it’s a series of steps that you will have to […]
More InfoBC Recession-Style, Pt. 1
by Anna Disclaimer re: hormonal BC — I don’t use hormonal BC myself, and am frustrated by the fact that options that are less burdensome to finances, health and the environment don’t get nearly as much press as the latest version of ‘the Pill’. BUT most U.S. women use the Pill at some point in […]
More InfoWestward Ho!
by David Wraith I know this site is called Sex Positive St. Louis, but on a site dedicated to sex positivity, I think it’s perfectly acceptable that we pay homage its American Mecca. What Los Angeles is to the movie industry and New York is to the theater, San Francisco is to sex. Yes, L.A. […]
More InfoBeate Uhse – Flying High
by Anna I had never been to a sex toy store before going to Germany for the first time about 9 years ago. To me sex toy stores were seedy places, with leering men lurking in dark corners. However, I had already bought my first vibrator – a hot pink model, sold through Bust magazine’s […]
More InfoSyncing Sexual Identities
by Johnny Murdoc One core problem that we at SEX+STL would like to address is the dissonance between our sex lives and the other factors that make up who we are. It’s no secret that American culture is incredibly uptight when it comes to sex (although not nearly as uptight as some other cultures) and […]
More InfoFor National Coming Out Day: Queer Heterosexuality and the Tyranny of Labels
by David Wraith Today is National Coming Out Day, so in the spirit of the occasion, I am going to come out. That’s right folks; this is a Sex Positive St. Louis exclusive. I, David Horatio Wraith, am a heterosexual. Whew! There, I said it. I feel like a weight has been lifted. Done and […]
More InfoIt Gets Better…
by Johnny Murdoc All week long I’ve had these ideas about all of the sexy blog posts that I was going to write for the SEX+STL blog. Now, it’s down to the wire and all I can think about is kind of a bummer topic, but it’s an important one. My buddy Rob Wolfsham, a […]
More InfoWhere to Find Us Online
So, now that you’ve met the four founders of Sex Positive St. Louis, I wanted to tell you a little bit more about how you can find us online. Building a community is a huge part of what SEX+STL would like to achieve, and one of our first steps is building that community on the […]
More InfoAnna’s Grand Narrative
Hi! It’s me, Anna, 29, bisexual and mostly polyamorous. College years in Memphis were spent escorting at Planned Parenthood, working on various projects with the Womens Action Coalition, the university’s LGBT group and, later, anti-war activism. When grad school took over my life, I started keeping things fun with community gardening , beer brewing (read: […]
More InfoJohnny Murdoc Writes an Introduction to Himself
Hello! I’m Johnny Murdoc, a 29-year-old sex writer and co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis. This year I’ve had a gay erotic science fiction comic published, self-published two ‘zines collecting my dirty stories, and had a story selected for the upcoming Best Gay Erotica 2011. I’ve also written regular essays for SexIs, on topics ranging […]
More InfoThe Evolution of David Wraith
Hi sexuals, I’m David Wraith. This is my story and I’m sticking to it. My first official act as a high school graduate was to use some of my graduation money to buy tickets to see Lollapalooza. Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, Ice Cube and the Red Hot Chili Peppers were playing that year. On the way […]
More InfoDucky Doolittle Interview on Sex Is Fun
Ducky Doolittle is a fairly new name to me. A sex educator based in Minneapolis, she speaks all over the country and has a fabulous series of videos on YouTube. Of her many projects, my favorite is ‘love u parties’ – a business that uses a direct-sales model (think Avon or Tupperware) to get high-quality […]
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