The Naked Truth: SEX+STL Clothing Optional Events
Why Do We Do This? Why throw a clothing optional event? Why attend one? It’s a question a child might ask, but it’s not a childish question. I’ll answer with more questions. Why do we wear costumes on Halloween? Why do we wear black to funerals? Why do some offices require business attire, and why […]
How to Get Involved With SEX+STL
One of the most frequently asked questions we get is: “How can I get involved with Sex Positive St. Louis?” We’re so glad you asked! Our group is exciting, titillating, challenging, inclusive, accepting, friendly, and SO MUCH MORE. Our mission has changed lives! We’d love to get to know you and exchange open-minded ideas. There […]
Is Camming the Job For You?
By Metta May [ A guest post by Metta May, founder of Wellness4Hoes and instructor at The Mistress Academy] There’s not really an orientation to attend for this gig, so if you’re new or on the fence, here’s a bit of a glimpse at what you’re getting in to! Be You! – This is the […]
The Mistress Academy
By Lady Lovage The Mistress Academy is a finishing-program in St. Louis aimed at those in the sex work industry who are looking to incorporate BDSM and power exchange aspects into their personal or professional lives. This program is taught by Lady Lovage, a Dominatrix with seven years of experience both as a lifestyle Femdom […]
A Conversation with the Ladies of the House of J Femdom Collective
When I arrive at the downtown St. Louis loft building that houses the Loft of Sin, the home to the House of J Femdom collective, I’m met by a very polite young person who escorts me to the elevator and up to the dungeon. As a submissive, I’m always a little nervous meeting dominants […]
SEX+STL: The War on Whores with Maggie McNeill
The War on Whores [Free Documentary Screening] Featuring Maggie McNeill Wednesday, May 1, 2019 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM Brown School at Washington University 1 Brookings Dr · St. Louis, MO THIS EVENT IS A VERY SPECIAL OPPORTUNITY. We are SO excited to welcome Maggie McNeill back to St Louis! She was last here in 2014, promoting her book. This […]
SESTA/FOSTA: The Strangulation of Free Expression & Safe Sex Work
A guest post by Jackie Harris For the last 22 years, freedom of expression online in the US has lived happily within “47 U.S.C., the Communications Decency Act,” a piece of legislation whose original purpose was, as suggested by its name, used to restrict free speech on the internet. Oddly enough, within this act passed to […]
Ask SEX+STL: How Do I Find a Woman to Spank Me?
Q: I have been looking long and hard for someone who will spank me. Seriously. Would you know any trust worthy ladies you could tell me about? Or could you point me in the right direction? Thanks so much. A: There are two solutions to your situation. One involves an investment of time, the other an […]
SEX+STL Meetup Group Email Policy
One of the goals of Sex Positive St. Louis is to connect like-minded, sex-positive people and foster a sex-positive community. That being said, using the SEX+STL Meetup Group for the sending of unsolicited, sexually explicit emails to other group members is inappropriate and will not be tolerated. Doing so is grounds for being banned from the […]
A Message from the Leaders of Sex Positive St Louis
Sex Positive St. Louis is a non-partisan organization. While we reserve the right to fight for the political causes we believe in, in our six year history we have not seen fit to endorse any particular political candidate or party. That said, in light of our most recent election, we feel the need to publicly […]
Let’s Talk About Caitlyn Jenner: Part 1 of 2
Every disenfranchised group has to deal with its Fifth Columnists. Black folks have Stacey Dash. The upshot is that Stacey is far from being the most well known black woman in entertainment, journalism or politics among black or white people. Conservative voices among the marginalized are rarely the most prominent voices. More people know Margaret […]
Let’s Talk About Caitlyn Jenner: Part 2 of 2
This is the second part of a two part conversation. For part one, click here. Dramatist Personae: Jaimie Hileman – Board President of Metro Trans Umbrella Group of Greater St. Louis Joss Barton – Writer and Artist Ruby Threadgill – Radio Personality, founder of Generation Next SEX+STL: Joss, since you’ve watched the show, what is […]
How to Throw a Penis Party
I’ve spent the last five years throwing all sorts of clothing optional events. And you probably haven’t. I’ve sort of become an accidental expert on the subject, so if you’re in the St. Louis area and are in the market for a clothing optional event planner, I’m your man. If you’re outside the St. Louis […]
It Worked for Us: Starting a Successful Sex-Positive Group in Your City
Our society is confusing – we’re OBSESSED with sex, but we’re SO AFRAID of it. Just about everything thing you see in the media is ignorance or fear-based. Sex is censored, controlled, sensationalized, misconstrued… no wonder we’re confused! That’s why access to sex-positive education is SO critical. EVERY city should have a sex-positive organization where people […]
Bringing Sexy Black with Dr. Lexx
Dr. Lexx will be presenting SEX+STL’s Homophobia in Black Culture, Sunday, December 6th, 2015, 2 pm, at Shameless Grounds, co-sponsored by Afrosexology. For our interview with the founders of Afrosexology, click here. If you’re attending a presentation by Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, Ph.D., the keyword is “comfort,” as in; wear comfortable clothes, don’t get too comfortable in your chair, […]
Bringing Sexy Black with Afrosexology
Afrosexology is a co-sponsor of SEX+STL’s Homophobia in Black Culture, with Dr. Lexx Brown-James, Sunday, December 6th, 2015, 2 pm, at Shameless Grounds. For our interview with Dr. Lexx, click here. The 14th Street Mall in Old North St. Louis is dark and quiet around 6 p.m, the Sunday before Thanksgiving. The only light that’s […]
SEX+STL: Fifth Anniversary Fleshtivus
Please read the details in full for instructions on how to RSVP for this event: Peace, Joy, and Love to you all! Our annual clothing optional holiday party, Fleshtivus, is upon us. This year there’s even more reason to celebrate. Come join us for Sex Positive St. Louis’ 5th Year Anniversary! The SEX+STL team […]
On Being Intersex… Or, I Am Not a Unicorn
by Leon Augustus Braxton, Jr. Many do believe that intersex people are like unicorns: a mythical creature that is rarely seen. Like unicorns, intersex has been largely unseen mainly due to the veil of secrecy and shame that intersex people feel. However, unlike the unicorn we are not a myth – we exist. Intersex people are […]
A SEX+STL Testimonial from M
M is a woman in her 20’s… I heard that the SEX+STL community was a good, welcoming one, and I caught a glimpse of that warmth at the Topless Tea Party. It’s hard to find a group of women who are truly, truly kind, but everyone was. Really. The veterans were happy to include the […]
A SEX+STL Testimonial from J
J is a woman in her 40’s… The Bare as You Dare event held by SEX+STL has, thus far, been one of the most transformative experiences of my life. Having been raised in an extremely religious family (and taught all of the body shame and sex shame that seems to go along with that), and […]