The Play Party’s Second Coming with Nikki Powell

  When we last spoke to Nikki Powell in 2019, she was on the verge of hosting her first public event, The Play Party. Oh, what a difference a year makes. Since our first interview, Nikki has launched a tantra practice, a podcast, and #PussyTrauma, her private, woman only Facebook group, has grown to over […]

Is Camming the Job For You?

By Metta May [ A guest post by Metta May, founder of Wellness4Hoes and instructor at The Mistress Academy] There’s not really an orientation to attend for this gig, so if you’re new or on the fence, here’s a bit of a glimpse at what you’re getting in to!  Be You! – This is the […]

The Mistress Academy

By Lady Lovage  The Mistress Academy is a finishing-program in St. Louis aimed at those in the sex work industry who are looking to incorporate BDSM and power exchange aspects into their personal or professional lives.  This program is taught by Lady Lovage, a Dominatrix with seven years of experience both as a lifestyle Femdom […]

A Conversation with the Ladies of the House of J Femdom Collective

  When I arrive at the downtown St. Louis loft building that houses the Loft of Sin, the home to the House of J Femdom collective, I’m met by a very polite young person who escorts me to the elevator and up to the dungeon. As a submissive, I’m always a little nervous meeting dominants […]

How to Stop Alienating Women from SEX+STL

[Ed Note: If you receive unwelcome messages from other members of the group, please send them a link to this post, or a link to our SEX+STL Meetup Email policy, which is pinned to the top of our message board. Then, screenshot the offensive message and send to a SEX+STL co-leader so we can have […]

SEX+STL: The War on Whores with Maggie McNeill

The War on Whores [Free Documentary Screening] Featuring Maggie McNeill Wednesday, May 1, 2019 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM Brown School at Washington University  1 Brookings Dr · St. Louis, MO THIS EVENT IS A VERY SPECIAL OPPORTUNITY. We are SO excited to welcome Maggie McNeill back to St Louis! She was last here in 2014, promoting her book. This […]

Phallus-Ophy’s Namaste Nikki on Sex Coaching, Phone Sex, and Play Parties

Namaste Nikki is a sex coach, phone sex provider, and, as of this March’s “The Play Party,” a sex-positive party impresario. We here at SEX+STL are always looking for a good party that we don’t have to throw ourselves, so I was very eager to talk to Nikki and learn more about her work and her […]

Sex-Positive Etiquette for Men: Discussion Recap

On January 27, 2019, we held a Sex-Positive Etiquette for Men discussion at Shameless Grounds. Here’s the event description: This event is free and open to all SEX+STL members. Men – do you wish we had more female members? (Note: as of right now we have more than 4300 members on our Meetup group. I’m […]

SESTA/FOSTA: The Strangulation of Free Expression & Safe Sex Work

A guest post by Jackie Harris For the last 22 years, freedom of expression online in the US has lived happily within “47 U.S.C., the Communications Decency Act,” a piece of legislation whose original purpose was, as suggested by its name, used to restrict free speech on the internet.  Oddly enough, within this act passed to […]

Ask SEX+STL: How Do I Find a Woman to Spank Me?

Q: I have been looking long and hard for someone who will spank me. Seriously. Would you know any trust worthy ladies you could tell me about? Or could you point me in the right direction? Thanks so much. A: There are two solutions to your situation. One involves an investment of time, the other an […]

SEX+STL Meetup Group Email Policy

One of the goals of Sex Positive St. Louis is to connect like-minded, sex-positive people and foster a sex-positive community. That being said, using the SEX+STL Meetup Group for the sending of unsolicited, sexually explicit emails to other group members is inappropriate and will not be tolerated. Doing so is grounds for being banned from the […]

Dating Safety Review Notes

THANK YOU Shameless Grounds for hosting our event! This talk was about physical, emotional, and financial safety in the realm of dating. Kendra Holliday facilitated. Carla was on hand to speak of her date rape experiences. Therapist Paula LaFond from Women’s Resource Center at YWCA offered her professional experience. Trauma can elicit several reactions: Fight, Flight, […]

Today I Was Fat

Note: This is reposted with permission from Bitter Blush. It was originally published at Bitter Blush blog, a platform that strives to create an open community to discuss topics that traditionally make us **blushhh. This piece is by Darius M. Today, I needed to get out of bed. Post-graduate life has presented few challenges for me as an […]

Sex-Positive Christianity

Note: This is reposted with permission from Bitter Blush. It was originally published at Bitter Blush blog, a platform that strives to create an open community to discuss topics that traditionally make us **blushhh. This piece is by Anonymous. The Christian point of view regarding sex is perhaps one of the most “sex-positive” perspectives out […]

The Naked Truth: SEX+STL Clothing Optional Events

Why Do We Do This? Why throw a clothing optional event? Why attend one? It’s a question a child might ask, but it’s not a childish question. I’ll answer with more questions. Why do we wear costumes on Halloween? Why do we wear black to funerals? Why do some offices require business attire, and why […]

A Message from the Leaders of Sex Positive St Louis

Sex Positive St. Louis is a non-partisan organization. While we reserve the right to fight for the political causes we believe in, in our six year history we have not seen fit to endorse any particular political candidate or party. That said, in light of our most recent election, we feel the need to publicly […]

Kinky Flower Arrangements!

UPDATE: Fleus de Lou is now out of business. Fleur de Lou is NOT your average flower and gift shop! Have you visited it? It’s a sweet little local designer boutique, located right under the Tivoli movie theater sign on Delmar in University City, St. Louis MO. Not only do they offer traditional flower bouquets, but […]

Let’s Talk About Caitlyn Jenner: Part 1 of 2

Every disenfranchised group has to deal with its Fifth Columnists. Black folks have Stacey Dash. The upshot is that Stacey is far from being the most well known black woman in entertainment, journalism or politics among black or white people. Conservative voices among the marginalized are rarely the most prominent voices. More people know Margaret […]

Let’s Talk About Caitlyn Jenner: Part 2 of 2

This is the second part of a two part conversation. For part one, click here. Dramatist Personae: Jaimie Hileman – Board President of Metro Trans Umbrella Group of Greater St. Louis Joss Barton – Writer and Artist Ruby Threadgill – Radio Personality, founder of Generation Next SEX+STL: Joss, since you’ve watched the show, what is […]

Urethral Sounding Demo Recap

We offer some amazing events for our local community – not only do we host happy hours, discussions, pussy parties, and clothing optional parties, but we also present demos from time to time. Previous demos include blowjob, cunnilingus, female ejaculation, and fisting. Well the other day, I met a man who loves sounding. Urethral sounding is […]