Show Me: Erotic St. Louis Anthology

Last night, at the incredibly successful Sex Positive St. Louis Out Loud (if you weren’t there, you should feel bad), SEX+STL announced our new project, Show Me: an erotic anthology of stories set in St. Louis. We’re looking for prose, poetry, fiction, non-fiction, and photography. Check out our submissions call: DO YOU HAVE SAINT LOUIS […]

Keeping up with A Billion Wicked Thoughts

Things have been crazy busy in my world lately, and I’ve missed lots of events. The one I was saddest to miss was the first-ever SEX+STL book club at the end of  October. Of course being out of town didn’t stop me from reading the October selection, and I found myself in for a fun […]

TONIGHT: Is There a Sacred Dimension to Human Sexuality?

by Johnny Murdoc Tonight, Ben Schuldt’s Responsible Public Debate and The Ethical Society of St. Louis are hosting a debate, “Is there a sacred dimension to human sexuality?” SEX+STL’s Anna Bent will debate Matthew Anderson, author of Earthen Vessels: Why Our Bodies Matter to Our Faith and contributor to the blog Mere Orthodoxy. I’m genuinely […]

Monday Night Movie Pick: Love Ranch

What keeps me going is that through all the lies, I know the truth. We had it. Him and me for a moment. Love and truth together. Finally. And forever. Hey, how many people can say that? – Grace Bontempo Terry Hackford’s 2010 drama takes its inspiration from Joe and Sally Conforte’s Mustang Ranch, the […]

The Randy Dandies find the Pearl: an interview with Mimi Le Yu

When I found out that Mimi Le Yu, one of my favorite burlesque performers, was fronting a new troupe called the Randy Dandies, I couldn’t keep away from their show Melons and Meat Sticks: a Dandy Backyard Burly-Q.  It was one of the best shows I’ve every seen. The storyline was entertaining and better developed than […]

Cosmocking

True Confession time:  I read Cosmo sex advice for years.  As my interest in women grew, and it was clear that Cosmo didn’t have any sex advice for queer girls (no kidding!), I stopped actually buying the dreck 9 or  10 years ago. Still, Ive been a faithful grocery-line reader until recently. Stopping even my […]

Ethical Monogamy

by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk  on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]

Intention, Attention and Awareness: Figuring out Consent, pt. 2

Because you, and the world, deserve our full presence, our full attention, our full passion, and our fully engaged awareness. ~Lee Harrington The much-delayed part 2 to my first Figuring out Consent post! I’m so excited about the July 16th Slutwalk in St. Louis. I won’t get to be there myself, but it has me […]

Let’s Make it a ‘Hell Yes!’: Figuring Out Consent, Pt. 1

by Anna Bent Author’s note: just to be clear, this discussion of consent is about cultural, relational and community standards, not legal ones. Solutions regarding the morass that is the justice system’s (in)ability to deal with sexual assault is WAY above my paygrade. Anyway, I’m more interested in figuring out ways of relating that might […]

Slut Walk in Toronto

It’s awesome when somebody’s dumbassery leads people to come together and address an issue so loudly that the good drowns out the original bad. Last January, a police officer was doing a sexual assault prevention training at York University in Toronto and opined that “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.” In protest […]

Women and Casual Sex Pt. 2: Respecting Conscious Choices

A lot gets made of women having casual sex.  Often it’s assumed that women don’t really want to have casual sex, but engage in it as a (misguided) strategy to start something long term.But  Helen Fisher quote a study that asked 515 people why they went into a hookup, 50 percent of women and 52 […]

Women and Casual Sex, Pt. 1: Self-Discovery Through Yahoo! Profiles

While here in Germany I am pretty much celibate.  That’s for a few reasons, all  of which are boring, but one of them is that I’m not that interested in casual sex. This surprises me.  I like casual sex.  And I have had very good experiences with it.  Not only has it not been damaging […]