One of the tiny—but beloved—joys that I have is experiencing a discussion about sex or sexuality in media that I wasn’t expecting, especially when it’s nuanced. Sunday night, my roommate and I decided to start watching Louie, Louis C.K.’s current sitcom, while we ate dinner. After a reasonably funny first episode, we decided to start […]
Category Archives: communication
Male Etiquette Class Sept 22
The other day I had a guy write to me: I am wondering if you might be able to provide some advice on how to interact with women better. I realize I am not very good at starting or maintaining conversations, recognizing when a woman is flirting with me, or flirting with a woman. I […]
Ethical Monogamy
by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]
Minds Wide Open Project
There’s a new photography project in town that is very sex-positive, care to participate? MY photoshoot is tomorrow, and I can’t wait for my truth to be captured in a bold and brave way that I’ve never done before! Here I interview the artist behind the project, Michelle Wagner. Kendra Holliday: Who are you? Michelle […]
Nobody does it like Roseanne
At the Black and White party last week, I briefly mentioned Roseanne to David Wraith, as part of a conversation about Sandra Bernhardt. Wraith noted that he never really got into Roseanne. While I’m certain there are thousands of people out there like Wraith, I’m just as certain that there are thousands of people out […]
Intention, Attention and Awareness: Figuring out Consent, pt. 2
Because you, and the world, deserve our full presence, our full attention, our full passion, and our fully engaged awareness. ~Lee Harrington The much-delayed part 2 to my first Figuring out Consent post! I’m so excited about the July 16th Slutwalk in St. Louis. I won’t get to be there myself, but it has me […]
Lessons from a Simulated Love Affair
This is a guest post from Robin, SEX+STL volunteer and mother of two. Please join us Monday, June 27 for our next Sex Positive Parenting group at Shameless Grounds, 7pm! My favorite Sim is a bit of a cad. Devon is high in charisma, but low in commitment. He has had 10 girlfriends, each of […]
Cornerstones of Community: How to Build Relationships from the Ground Up
This is a guest post by Lenore Spitznagel, a Leader from Diana’s Grove Mystery School. Relationships are tough! Engaging with a partner, an acquaintance or even a stranger can leaves us vulnerable to misunderstandings, hurt feelings and even rejection. Add sex to the equation and there is even more to lose. Diana’s […]
Sex Positive Parenting May 16!
Last month, we were honored to have Susie Bright debut our sex-positive parenting group. Our next one will be Monday, May 16, 7pm at Shameless Grounds, hosted by Charlotte Times and myself. This will be a kid-free discussion group in the library. “In America today, it is nearly impossible to publish a book that says […]
The Goal of Sex Positive St. Louis
The other day I was having lunch with a designer/photographer team who want to collaborate on a Sex Positive St. Louis project, and the designer leaned back in his chair, folded his hands behind his head and asked crisply, “So, what does Sex Positive St. Louis hope to achieve?” First of all, it’s blowing my […]
Women and Casual Sex, Pt. 1: Self-Discovery Through Yahoo! Profiles
While here in Germany I am pretty much celibate. That’s for a few reasons, all of which are boring, but one of them is that I’m not that interested in casual sex. This surprises me. I like casual sex. And I have had very good experiences with it. Not only has it not been damaging […]
Vanilla Whipped up Right
by Anna One criticism of the sex positive movement is that along with setting up the norm that people should be having sex, and that sex should be relatively unproblematic, it also, in an effort to be ‘pro-kink’ tends to set up the expectation that everyone has some kind of fetish, or at least a […]