One of the most frequently asked questions we get is: “How can I get involved with Sex Positive St. Louis?” We’re so glad you asked! Our group is exciting, titillating, challenging, inclusive, accepting, friendly, and SO MUCH MORE. Our mission has changed lives! We’d love to get to know you and exchange open-minded ideas. There […]
Category Archives: communication
Dating Safety Review Notes
THANK YOU Shameless Grounds for hosting our event! This talk was about physical, emotional, and financial safety in the realm of dating. Kendra Holliday facilitated. Carla was on hand to speak of her date rape experiences. Therapist Paula LaFond from Women’s Resource Center at YWCA offered her professional experience. Trauma can elicit several reactions: Fight, Flight, […]
CFNM Penis Party!
Most of the events hosted by Sex Positive St. Louis are open to all genders. Occasionally, we’ll offer an event for women only. They are ALWAYS wonderful, a great opportunity for women to explore their sexuality safely, in a setting that is comfortable for them. In the spirit of equality, some of our male members requested an event for […]
Herpes Hangout!
So get this – I know a lot of people who have herpes, but they are so secretive about it, they don’t realize how many other people in the community have it as well. So I decided to host an event at Shameless Grounds this Tuesday and invite everyone and anyone to come and learn […]
ASK SEX+STL: Too Hairy?
A reader asks: I’m a St. Louis resident and I have been told by several women that I need to shave. I’m not sure what they mean by this, whether I need to shave my pubic area or my whole body? I have attached a picture of myself. Please let me know if you find […]
Ending Sexual Assault St. Louis
One of the webmistresses of this tumblr tipped me off to it at a party a few weeks ago. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and over at SEX+STL, this is when we’ve begun to gear up for SlutWalk. Didn’t make it to the SlutWalk summit? Like us on Facebook to stay updated and offer […]
Female Ejaculation FAQ and Demo
A week from today is SEX+STL’s first-ever demo & discuss night! We hope that it will be one of many. Blow jobs, and sensation play are other topics that will likely pop up in the future. What do you want to see? What do you want to talk about. This is how Friday’s […]
Why We Need Sex Ed – Fabulous Graphic
There’s a lot of talk about shutting down various reproductive rights in our country. This is based on fear and control coming from the patriarchy plaguing our society. (Patriarchy is the fear of the feminine and mature masculine.) These religious-based opinions are downright dangerous. Combating this ignorance are people like Jen and her team, who […]
On Polyamory: Ashley’s Take
Two weeks ago, I posted an essay called On Polyamory from my friend, Christina, and I promised to share with you two more essays: one by Christina’s husband and one by his girlfriend, Ashley. I meant for this to be a weekly series, but prepping for Christmas last week sucked up so much time that […]
On Polyamory: A Guest Post
Recently, a friend of a friend wrote a blog post called “Adventures in Polyamory,” about his relationship with our mutual friend, Christina. On the way to her house I asked her where her husband was that night. “At home” came the thoughtless reply. Oh fuck. And like that we were walking into her house. Within […]
From Cage to Erotic Den: Esther Perel’s ‘Mating in Captivity’
Sex is a state of grace. In a cage it can’t take place. Break the cage, then start in and try. -D.H. Lawrence Esther Perel, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in intercultural relationships, delves into the question of maintaining passion in long-term relationships. She sees the challenge here as one of fostering the closeness that intimacy […]
On Coming Out
Today is National Coming Out Day, so I’ve spent most of the morning reflecting on the idea of “coming out” and what that means. When I’ve written about the subject previously (see: “If you’re not out, you’re hurting us”), I’ve discussed the political ramifications of being out. I still believe that, over all, it’s those […]