by David Wraith I was trolling for naked pictures of my friends on FetLife, like I do, when I stumbled upon the picture to the right and the controversy it was causing. Lots of people were co-signing and amenning the sentiment, but a few people were expressing their displeasure with it. At some point in […]
Category Archives: women
Cosmocking
True Confession time: I read Cosmo sex advice for years. As my interest in women grew, and it was clear that Cosmo didn’t have any sex advice for queer girls (no kidding!), I stopped actually buying the dreck 9 or 10 years ago. Still, Ive been a faithful grocery-line reader until recently. Stopping even my […]
After SlutWalk
by David Wraith A couple days before SlutWalk, my friend and SEX+STL co-founder, Kendra Holliday expressed concern that participants would need aftercare following such an intense experience. Intellectually, I knew exactly want she meant, but I have to admit that on a gut level, I just didn’t get it. Maybe it’s because I’m a man. […]
Manning Up with Christopher Sean Watson
by David Wraith “Men continue to control the narrative and experiences of women, which leads to violence being an acceptable form of control.” If there’s a man I know with feminist street-cred, it’s Christopher Sean Watson. When I met him, he was a field organizer for Amnesty International, but check out his CV: He was […]
Women and Casual Sex Pt. 2: Respecting Conscious Choices
A lot gets made of women having casual sex. Often it’s assumed that women don’t really want to have casual sex, but engage in it as a (misguided) strategy to start something long term.But Helen Fisher quote a study that asked 515 people why they went into a hookup, 50 percent of women and 52 […]
Is PIV the New Oral?
by Anna In days of yore, when reproduction and male orgasm were the primary goals of heterosexual sex, ‘the main event’ was the penis moving in and out of the vagina. Indeed, even today what most people mean when they say ‘sex’ is penetration (of a penis, into a vagina). That’s problematic in so many […]
Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 3 of 3
This is part 3 of a 3 part series. Part 2 can be read here. by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone Now to the reasons I am a dominant woman active in BDSM.I love men and women. I enjoy their reactions to the activities I administer upon them. The power exchange between active parties in a scene […]
Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 2 of 3
This is part 2 of a 3 part series. Part 1 can be read here. by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone Along with BDSM as a sexual activity may come social activism, community awareness and political lobbying. These are all goals the original feminists strove for in the Suffrage movement. It was not simply enough to obtain […]
Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 1 of 3
Hi, sexuals. A few weeks back, I did this interview with kink educator and pro-domme, Mistress Simone. For the next three weeks I will yield by blog on SEX+STL to the Mistress and her wisdom on the subject of being a feminist and a fem-dom. Enjoy, and I’ll see you in February. – David […]
Where’s My Prostate? Or How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love the Flood
by Anna One of the subjects that has been floating in the background of my sexual conciousness is female ejaculation. I started ejaculating about four years ago, and it’s been puzzling and a little frustrating that I have so little control over when and how much I squirt. Bringing this to the fore was a […]
Bend Over Boyfriends… We’ve Got You Pegged.
by David Wraith “Bend Over Boyfriend,” written and performed by Elva Maxine Beach My junior year in high school, a friend of mine came to me with great concern on her face. She’d heard something about me and wanted to know if it was true. She looked me in the eye and asked if I […]
The Frugal, Safe Licking (Sucking, Nibbling) of Holes
by Anna Note: we at SEX+STL are not medical professionals. We do, however, spend a fair amount of time engaging in responsible, critical research in order to answer your questions as best as we can. Read and use your own best judgment. Question: Dental dams – which works better: a cut-open glove or plastic wrap? […]