Last month, SEX+STL hosted our first Cunnilingus Demo. Within a day of posting it on Meetup, we realized we would need to schedule another one later this year – the guest list AND waiting list maxed out in less than 24 hours!
Pussy is definitely a hot topic. Pair that with live, educational sex demos and you have something for almost everyone.
The demo was held at a private residence, with enough space for about 20 people. Three male/female couples were slated to perform – at future events, we will look into having female/female couples. All three couples volunteered without being asked. Some were used to performing in front of a group (play parties and such), but one woman was very shy and had never done anything like this before. Her partner asked her to try it out as a challenge, and she agreed.
The evening started out with cocktails, appetizers (the pussy cookies were a big hit!) and conversation. After everyone had a chance to settle in, we started with the shy woman and her handsome, kilted partner. Her partner also happened to be married, and his wife was going to narrate the scene for us! They’ve been in an open relationship for 3+ years.
They started off kissing and warming up. The crowd looked on breathlessly. As he worked his way down, his wife explained to us the things his girlfriend liked, and things to watch out for in her body language.
The audience couldn’t see much in the way of flesh – she kept her clothes on and his head blocked the view down below, which made it even more erotic and intriguing.
The wife reached down to caress the girlfriend from time-to-time and answered the occasional question. It felt like they were all very connected. The girlfriend came many times, squirming quietly, her arm over her face. Afterward, they answered more questions and we took a break.
The second couple was different – the woman was more bold and liked getting right down to business. She laid back on a sturdy coffee table and let her silk robe fall away for easy access. This time, the demo was not narrated and we all just watched, with sexy music playing in the background. It got warm in there!
She came as well, subdued and shuddering. It was incredibly erotic to watch real lovers at play – so nice of them to open up their bedroom door and allow us a chance to peek. It was also fascinating watching the two performances back-to-back – each woman was so different. No doubt every woman responds differently. I think some practical techniques were shared, but the most important take-away from the evening was to pay attention to body language, hone your intuitive skills, and above all, communicate with your partner. Find out what they like – a slow build up, steady and direct licking on the clitoris, a finger inside? If what you are doing isn’t eliciting much of a response, try switching to something different and see if you get a reaction.
We asked the third couple if they would face the other way so we could view the scene from a different angle, but it turns out she wasn’t feeling up to it, so with that, we called it a night.
Next time, we’d like to try having three couples again (I wanna do it!), witness female/female, and possibly secure a bigger space. It certainly was a special, sex-positive evening, and we thank our volunteers for being so brave and open!
As soon as you said “kilt” I knew who this was. I love being in such an amazingly open and accepting community. You all rock! 🙂