On Barebacking by Lars Eighner
Back in August of 2010, writer Lars Eighner posted a couple of essays about (gay) bareback sex and (gay) bareback porn that I’d like to share. Thankfully, Eighner released the essays to the public domain, so I’m going to post them whole cloth over the next couple of weeks. The reason Eighner’s essays appeal to […]
Brent’s Oral Exam: A Cute, Effective Safer Sex PSA
by Johnny Murdoc I’ve been thinking a lot about safer sex, lately, especially when it comes to the gay community. I’ve been especially torn between my role as a sex educator, and someone who strongly endorses safer sex practices, and my belief that people have the responsibility to make decisions for themselves and should have […]
Tales of the City with the Queer Book Club
This is a guest post by Anita Fitzwater. UPDATE: The book club meeting has been moved from Shameless Grounds to Mokabe’s. Check below for the time, date, and new location! Who the hell am I? Well, I’m someone who’s been involved with the Bisexual Alliance of St. Louis (BASL) for the past two years or so […]
Join SEX+STL Tonight at Shameless Grounds and Naughti Gras 4!
There’s a lot of sexy goings-on this weekend here in Saint Louis, but one event stands out: Naughti Gras 4, Saint Louis’s largest erotic art show. Come out and see erotic art from dozens of great artists, including the work of SEX+STL’s own David Wraith, and SEX+STL friends Molly Algernon and Digital Drew! On top […]
SEX POSITIVE: A Documentary About the Birth of Safer Sex
I just finished watching Sex Positive, a documentary about Richard Berkowitz, who (along with singer and activist Michael Callen and physician Joseph Sonnabend) is largely responsible for the safer sex movement as we know it. The film is probably most interesting because it’s complex. Berkowitz isn’t portrayed as a flawless hero and his fight […]
The Vasectomy Dialogues: Justin’s Story
Justin (and yes, that his real name), is a local 30-something guy, who’s stays pretty involved in the polyamory and sexpositive communities. If you come to one of our events, you just might see him around. His openess about his experience has provided a meaningful close to our three-part Vasectomy Dialogues series. Settling down with […]
The Vasectomy Dialogues: Chatting with Michael
Recently, I was able to catch up with Michael and he was kind enough to be open about how he made the decision to get a vasectomy and his thoughts on the experience. He’s 38, self-employed and living in St. Louis. He got his vasectomy in Fall 2009 at Planned Parenthood’s North County location. Q:Would […]
What Can You Say In America?
At the intersection of morality and commerce we impose our morals on financial decisions and use finances to justify moral decisions.
Is PIV the New Oral?
by Anna In days of yore, when reproduction and male orgasm were the primary goals of heterosexual sex, ‘the main event’ was the penis moving in and out of the vagina. Indeed, even today what most people mean when they say ‘sex’ is penetration (of a penis, into a vagina). That’s problematic in so many […]
Audio Erotica
As promised in my review of sexaudia.com, I’m returning to their selection of sexy audio story providers. At Nobilis Erotica, you find a collection of podcasts with stories that lean heavily in the direction of sci-fi and fantasy. But that is where the commonalities stop. The stories present all kinds of scenarios and run the […]
Radical Participation or “There are No Fags There”
Ed note: This post originally appeared on the personal website of author and educator Lee Harrington: passionandsoul.com. It is re-posted here with his permission. Lee will be speaking at Washington University’s Sex Week. Bristol Palin sends her regrets. by Guest Blogger, Lee Harrington. I hear it time and time again. That dungeon or event or play space has no […]
Coffee Talk: Poly 101, February 13th at Mokabe’s
Are you thinking about opening your relationship? Are you poly curious? Are you new to the polyamorous lifestyle? Do you have questions about polyamory that you don’t know who to ask? Are you a poly veteran with wisdom to share? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then please join SEX+STL at Mokabe’s […]
Sex and the Snowpocalypse
Most of Saint Louis is covered in what looks to be snow but is actually tiny ice pellets, with the weathermen promising vast amounts of snow later. All around the STL-based blogosphere, people are writing, Facebooking, and Tweeting about the oncoming Snowpocalypse (also: Snowmageddon, Icepocalypse, or—as the National Weather Center is warning—Blizzard) and SEX+STL is […]
SEX+STL Goes to the RFT St. Louis Web Awards
SEX+STL attended the first ever Riverfront Times St. Louis Web Awards in honor of or nomination for Best Sex Blog and to support our category’s winner, SEX+STL co-founder Kendra Holliday of The Beautiful Kind. More pictures from the event here.
Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 3 of 3
This is part 3 of a 3 part series. Part 2 can be read here. by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone Now to the reasons I am a dominant woman active in BDSM.I love men and women. I enjoy their reactions to the activities I administer upon them. The power exchange between active parties in a scene […]
Bad Boys of St. Louis
Bad Boys of St. Louis is an announcement list for local events for men who are interested in playing with other men. The list is organized by DJ, a South City resident, PHD student, and teacher. “I teach college to pay the bills,” he says. I first met DJ at a SEX+STL coffee talk just […]
Normal Bodies?
by Anna During puberty, one of the big questions people ask themselves is: is my body normal? That question often continues into adulthood. That’s no surprise, especially in cultures that place a premium on ‘normal’ physicality and sexuality, but that represent only a narrow range of variation within this normality. Add to that few natural […]
Guess Who’s Coming to Beat Me!
by David Wraith For the uninitiated, Beat Me in St. Louis (commonly known as “Beat Me” or “BMSL”) is an annual BDSM convention now in its fourteenth year. Beat Me draws attendees, vendors and sex educators from across the country. Instructors teach the tricks of their trade during daytime classes, and guests can then try out […]
Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 2 of 3
This is part 2 of a 3 part series. Part 1 can be read here. by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone Along with BDSM as a sexual activity may come social activism, community awareness and political lobbying. These are all goals the original feminists strove for in the Suffrage movement. It was not simply enough to obtain […]
Shut Up and Love the Rain: A Personal Look at Being Queer
Way back in my introduction, I mentioned that I was a print fetishist. Few things excite me like a well-designed book, an exciting publishing experiment, or the results of an artist’s self-published endeavors. That last category is what I want to talk about today (and probably a lot in the future.) If you’re not familiar […]