So long,”Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”

There’s little that I can say that isn’t being said by others, but I think that Homo Riot’s poster sums up my feelings best of all: (art by Homo Riot.) -Johnny Murdoc

Thursday Music Video: Ani DiFranco, In or Out

-by Johnny Murdoc This song was a hugely reinforcing when I was in high school, not just when I was a little gay boy pretending I was bi, but when I came around to being cool with actually being homo. This song has such a wonderfully playful—but honest—attitude to it that I found really empowering: […]

I Don’t TRUST This Spray

A straight male friend of mine in his 40’s who has had a lifelong struggle relating to women sent me this youtube video on Trust spray and asked me if I thought it would help him attract women. Trust spray is a product that is supposed to make people trust you, which I guess means […]

Do All Real Women Have Curves?

by David Wraith I was trolling for naked pictures of my friends on FetLife, like I do, when I stumbled upon the picture to the right and the controversy it was causing. Lots of people were co-signing and amenning the sentiment, but a few people were expressing their displeasure with it. At some point in […]

The Anti-Pickup Artist

by David Wraith I used to jokingly refer to myself as an “anti-pickup artist.” In my 20s this was meant to symbolize my abject failure with women. I made a fool out of myself chasing women who had no interest in me (to stalkerish proportions), I was clueless about how to flirt and oblivious to […]

Don’t Be It, Dream It

Natty Soltesz is one of the most prolific gay erotica writers that I know. His work has been included in several anthologies (many of which include the word “best” in the title) and he’s contributed dozens of stories to the Nifty Erotic Archives, where I first came across his work (pun possibly intended.) I’ve had […]

The Randy Dandies find the Pearl: an interview with Mimi Le Yu

When I found out that Mimi Le Yu, one of my favorite burlesque performers, was fronting a new troupe called the Randy Dandies, I couldn’t keep away from their show Melons and Meat Sticks: a Dandy Backyard Burly-Q.  It was one of the best shows I’ve every seen. The storyline was entertaining and better developed than […]

Gay Catholic Priest Breaks Silence Over Church Abuse of Power

Richard Wagner, Ph.D., is the only Catholic priest in the world with a doctorate in human sexuality. He is a gay man and the author of the seminal work, Gay Catholic Priests: A Study of Cognitive and Affective Dissonance.  The media firestorm that erupted after its publication and the backlash within his religious community because […]

Cosmocking

True Confession time:  I read Cosmo sex advice for years.  As my interest in women grew, and it was clear that Cosmo didn’t have any sex advice for queer girls (no kidding!), I stopped actually buying the dreck 9 or  10 years ago. Still, Ive been a faithful grocery-line reader until recently. Stopping even my […]

Meet Bella Bazooka Aug 24

Bella Bazooka is coming to town. Details are here. I invited her to be the guest of honor at a SEX+STL Happy Hour. We’ve been friends for the past five years, accomplishing great things in our respective towns. She is the Owner and Editor of Bazooka, a monthly alternative weekly publication that shakes the southern […]

Go Topless Day August 21

My friend posted this status on facebook today: “pet peeve: when parents force their toddler daughters to wear a bikini top at the beach. Its the last time she’s not breaking any laws. Let her be.” One of MY big pet peeves is the fact that men are allowed to go topless in St. Louis, […]

Ethical Monogamy

by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk  on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]

Coffee Talk: Monogamy 101

Join SEX+STL today at 3:00pm at Shameless Grounds (click here for directions!) for Monogamy 101. We’ll discuss the nuts and bolts of making a one-on-one relationship function. Communication, fantasy, jealousy, fidelity—we’ll challenge all of your assumptions about what monogamy means. (photo by Johnny Murdoc. Yes, he’s aware that he’s using a photo of a poly […]

Lauren Rosewarne Discusses “Part-Time Perverts” Aug 18

Our friends at Subterranean Books are hosting Dr. Lauren Rosewarne on her cross country book tour. A Lecturer with the School of Social and Political Sciences at the University of Melbourne and author of Part-Time Perverts: Sex, Pop Culture, & Kink Management, we’re excited to welcome Lauren and give her a warm Midwestern welcome! Kendra […]

Watching Porn in Public

The first time I watched porn with other people, it was five years ago. My partner and I threw this party… Wait, that’s a lie. The first time I watched porn with another person was years before that. My best friend and I found a small box of porn films and we watched them together. […]

Shameless Grounds Cherry Jubilee This Weekend!

A word from our friends at Shameless Grounds regarding this upcoming weekend! I will be there Saturday night, how about you? RSVP here! We here at Shameless Grounds want you to be at our first annual Cherry Jubilee! Gay, straight, trans, kinky, poly, queer or completely vanilla-this is a festival for everyone, from the gathering place […]

SEX+STL Trivia, Tomorrow Night @ HandleBar

SEX+STL (that’s us!) and The Handlebar are teaming up to bring you a sexually charged trivia night. Teams of 1-4 sex scholars will be competing for a $50 gift certificate donated by TRX Tattoos on S. Grand. There is no entry fee—this party is completely free! (Although, you should plan on bringing some dough for […]

After SlutWalk

by David Wraith A couple days before SlutWalk, my friend and SEX+STL co-founder, Kendra Holliday expressed concern that participants would need aftercare following such an intense experience. Intellectually, I knew exactly want she meant, but I have to admit that on a gut level, I just didn’t get it. Maybe it’s because I’m a man. […]