Guess Who’s Coming to Beat Me!
by David Wraith For the uninitiated, Beat Me in St. Louis (commonly known as “Beat Me” or “BMSL”) is an annual BDSM convention now in its fourteenth year. Beat Me draws attendees, vendors and sex educators from across the country. Instructors teach the tricks of their trade during daytime classes, and guests can then try out […]
Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 2 of 3
This is part 2 of a 3 part series. Part 1 can be read here. by Guest Blogger, Mistress Simone Along with BDSM as a sexual activity may come social activism, community awareness and political lobbying. These are all goals the original feminists strove for in the Suffrage movement. It was not simply enough to obtain […]
Sex Educator Tristan Taormino Uninvited to “Modern Sex” Conference
You know what’s ironic? When you get fired from your job for having a sex website, and then a sex blogger calendar with a “Sexual Freedom” theme kicks you off their calendar project for being “too controversial.” That happened to me last year. You know what else is ironic? When you’re a sex educator who […]
Privacy & Discretion in the Sex-Positive Community
On January 9, we held a coffee talk meeting discussing privacy and discretion when it comes to navigating your way through all of the exciting outlets of the sex-positive community. We expected about a dozen to attend, but 25 showed up from all walks of life! Here is what we came up with: First of […]
Shut Up and Love the Rain: A Personal Look at Being Queer
Way back in my introduction, I mentioned that I was a print fetishist. Few things excite me like a well-designed book, an exciting publishing experiment, or the results of an artist’s self-published endeavors. That last category is what I want to talk about today (and probably a lot in the future.) If you’re not familiar […]
The Bi-deology Project
The Bi-deology Project came across my radar immediately after Christmas when I was decompressing from a stressful family holiday by catching up on sex blog reading. I found Twanna Hines’ column on non-black men dating black women and wove my way from link to link to the Bi-deology Project, a joint video project that she […]
“That’s socially useful.”
Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 1 of 3
Hi, sexuals. A few weeks back, I did this interview with kink educator and pro-domme, Mistress Simone. For the next three weeks I will yield by blog on SEX+STL to the Mistress and her wisdom on the subject of being a feminist and a fem-dom. Enjoy, and I’ll see you in February. – David […]
Shameless Grounds Opening Late February!
Ready for some great local news? A wife and husband team are going into business for the good of the community. Here is Andy Mueller giving us the scoop! Kendra Holliday: What’s this I hear about a sex-positive community center coffee shop opening up in St. Louis? Andy Mueller: Yes, you heard right. It’s called […]
Greta Christina at Skepticon 3
A few months back, Kendra and I both attended Skepticon 3, a Springfield, MO convention dedicated to skepticism. I think that Kendra and I both agree that one of the best things about the convention itself (excluding anything that may have happened in hotel rooms in between speakers and platforms) was Greta Christina‘s talk, Atheism […]
Vanilla Whipped up Right
by Anna One criticism of the sex positive movement is that along with setting up the norm that people should be having sex, and that sex should be relatively unproblematic, it also, in an effort to be ‘pro-kink’ tends to set up the expectation that everyone has some kind of fetish, or at least a […]
Body Positive for the New Year
by David Wraith I need to get back in shape. I’m so out of shape that I almost take pride in saying that I need to get back in shape, because the strategic use of the word “back” presupposes that I actually was in shape at one point in my life, while remaining suitably vague […]
Molly Algernon’s Sex Positive Project
By Kendra Holliday An interview with a local artist who has a vision. Will she succeed? That’s up to you! Donate to Molly’s Kickstarter project today! Kendra Holliday: Who are you? Where are you from? Molly Algernon: I am Molly Algernon, or some know me as Miss Omission. I’m Midwest born and raised, originally from […]
Finding Peace at The Facility
by Johnny Murdoc In lieu of a blog post today, I’m going to direct you to an essay of mine that was published this week. It’s my account of SEX+STL’s first fundraiser, and I think it’s relevant to share here for a handful of reasons. The most important is that we have another fundraiser coming […]
No, No, I Am Indeed Laughing at You
by Anna Karl: Not funny ‘ha-ha’, funny queer. Vaughan Cunningham: Well that’s a very offensive way to put it. You shouldn’t say that. You were taught that, weren’t you? -Slingblade (1996) One of the ways in which alternative sexual practices get marginalized is to make them the butt of jokes, to create the kind of […]
Herpes Scare
By Kendra Holliday Via email, a friend of mine decided to tell me he had herpes two weeks AFTER I played with him. Due to the nature of our play (very little skin on skin contact, I even put a condom on my strapon), I wasn’t too concerned. Except for the bump I had down […]
Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: Part Two
by Johnny Murdoc In the last part, I wrote about primary method that my partner, Evan, and I used to facilitate discussions about sex, which involved regularly reading the weekly Savage Love column to one another. Reading about the real-world sexual issues of Love’s audience provided a great framework for discussing sexuality on a regular […]
Bend Over and Say Hello to Mistress Simone
by David Wraith So, you saw the cover of Lee Harrington’s book Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond, and you asked yourself, who is that hot domme on the cover? Well, mystery solved: she is none other than nationally renowned kink educator, Mistress Simone. Mistress Simone divides her time between St. Louis […]
Beethoven Made Me Cum
By Kendra Holliday In the spirit of Johnny Murdoc’s latest blog post, I’d like to joyfully share with you a hot masturbation session I had, featuring some really fun toys… I enjoyed a concert the other night. In bed. The instruments featured were the sleek Naughtibod, the OhMiBod, and the OhMibod Gspot. I got everything […]
Right On, Taylor Momsen…
by Johnny Murdoc So, I know it’s somewhat irresponsible to take a break from posting the next installment of a series—especially when it’s only the second installment—but I wanted to share this quote. (Also, I may have not actually written the second installment, yet. I promise(!) it will come around next week, though.) However, I […]