The Bi-deology Project
The Bi-deology Project came across my radar immediately after Christmas when I was decompressing from a stressful family holiday by catching up on sex blog reading. I found Twanna Hines’ column on non-black men dating black women and wove my way from link to link to the Bi-deology Project, a joint video project that she […]
“That’s socially useful.”
Why I Am A Dominant Woman: Part 1 of 3
Hi, sexuals. A few weeks back, I did this interview with kink educator and pro-domme, Mistress Simone. For the next three weeks I will yield by blog on SEX+STL to the Mistress and her wisdom on the subject of being a feminist and a fem-dom. Enjoy, and I’ll see you in February. – David […]
Shameless Grounds Opening Late February!
Ready for some great local news? A wife and husband team are going into business for the good of the community. Here is Andy Mueller giving us the scoop! Kendra Holliday: What’s this I hear about a sex-positive community center coffee shop opening up in St. Louis? Andy Mueller: Yes, you heard right. It’s called […]
Greta Christina at Skepticon 3
A few months back, Kendra and I both attended Skepticon 3, a Springfield, MO convention dedicated to skepticism. I think that Kendra and I both agree that one of the best things about the convention itself (excluding anything that may have happened in hotel rooms in between speakers and platforms) was Greta Christina‘s talk, Atheism […]
Vanilla Whipped up Right
by Anna One criticism of the sex positive movement is that along with setting up the norm that people should be having sex, and that sex should be relatively unproblematic, it also, in an effort to be ‘pro-kink’ tends to set up the expectation that everyone has some kind of fetish, or at least a […]
Body Positive for the New Year
by David Wraith I need to get back in shape. I’m so out of shape that I almost take pride in saying that I need to get back in shape, because the strategic use of the word “back” presupposes that I actually was in shape at one point in my life, while remaining suitably vague […]
Finding Peace at The Facility
by Johnny Murdoc In lieu of a blog post today, I’m going to direct you to an essay of mine that was published this week. It’s my account of SEX+STL’s first fundraiser, and I think it’s relevant to share here for a handful of reasons. The most important is that we have another fundraiser coming […]
No, No, I Am Indeed Laughing at You
by Anna Karl: Not funny ‘ha-ha’, funny queer. Vaughan Cunningham: Well that’s a very offensive way to put it. You shouldn’t say that. You were taught that, weren’t you? -Slingblade (1996) One of the ways in which alternative sexual practices get marginalized is to make them the butt of jokes, to create the kind of […]
Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: Part Two
by Johnny Murdoc In the last part, I wrote about primary method that my partner, Evan, and I used to facilitate discussions about sex, which involved regularly reading the weekly Savage Love column to one another. Reading about the real-world sexual issues of Love’s audience provided a great framework for discussing sexuality on a regular […]
Bend Over and Say Hello to Mistress Simone
by David Wraith So, you saw the cover of Lee Harrington’s book Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond, and you asked yourself, who is that hot domme on the cover? Well, mystery solved: she is none other than nationally renowned kink educator, Mistress Simone. Mistress Simone divides her time between St. Louis […]
Right On, Taylor Momsen…
by Johnny Murdoc So, I know it’s somewhat irresponsible to take a break from posting the next installment of a series—especially when it’s only the second installment—but I wanted to share this quote. (Also, I may have not actually written the second installment, yet. I promise(!) it will come around next week, though.) However, I […]
Internet Hasn’t Killed the Radio Star: Sexaudia.com
by Anna After reading Johnny Murdoc’s post, I found myself wishing that there was somewhere that I could find lots of great sexuality podcasts in one place. Well, when I started surfing around sexaudia.com, my wish was granted. Sexaudia is a sexuality-focused web radio station. This means that anytime you can ‘tune in’ and hear […]
Where’s My Prostate? Or How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love the Flood
by Anna One of the subjects that has been floating in the background of my sexual conciousness is female ejaculation. I started ejaculating about four years ago, and it’s been puzzling and a little frustrating that I have so little control over when and how much I squirt. Bringing this to the fore was a […]
That Poly Guy: Part 2, My Poly History
by David Wraith Hi, Sexuals. When people ask me how long I’ve been poly, I tell them nine years. This is technically true. I’m not even sure I knew the word “polyamory” before 2001. But the truth is, I’ve almost always been this way. When I was 11, I was introduced to “Rachel,” the resident […]
Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: Part One
by Johnny Murdoc Whenever sex educators or advice columnists are confronted with problems between partners, their first recommendation is going to be communication. Recommending communication is easy because it’s true: there’s honestly nothing more crucial for correcting problems or making a change within a romantic or sexual relationships than communication. We all know that we […]
That Poly Guy: Part 1
by David Wraith Happy Anniversary, a film starring you-know-who. Hi, Sexuals. The biggest surprise I’ve gotten in the brief period since Sex+STL got started is that I have received almost no questions about BDSM or nudism (two topics I know a bit about). Almost all the questions that have come to me personally, in person […]
Department of Defense Releases Major Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Survey
by Johnny Murdoc Today should prove to be an important step forward for gay rights, as far as gays serving in the military is concerned. Just a short while ago, the U.S. Department of Defense released the findings of their thorough survey regarding the feelings of military personnel toward the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t […]
Where do you draw your line? Is the grass better fertilized on the other side?
by Anna When people negotiate what they want to do in bed, or discuss what they like sexually, there’s usually talk about lines. There are lines that must not be crossed, lines ok for nudging and pushing and lines that move around with the time of the month. Some lines are just fences to keep anything […]
Bend Over Boyfriends… We’ve Got You Pegged.
by David Wraith “Bend Over Boyfriend,” written and performed by Elva Maxine Beach My junior year in high school, a friend of mine came to me with great concern on her face. She’d heard something about me and wanted to know if it was true. She looked me in the eye and asked if I […]