Monday Night Movie Pick: Love Ranch

What keeps me going is that through all the lies, I know the truth. We had it. Him and me for a moment. Love and truth together. Finally. And forever. Hey, how many people can say that? – Grace Bontempo Terry Hackford’s 2010 drama takes its inspiration from Joe and Sally Conforte’s Mustang Ranch, the […]

The Dick Chronicles: Stupid Dick Tricks

The stapler will make sense later, trust me. by David Wraith I remember the first really dumb thing I ever did with my dick. It had nothing to do with a woman I was sticking it in. It was at a meeting of an organization called PEP (People Exchanging Power) in the upper floor of […]

Meet Vlad Drăculea, Asexual

In honor of Asexuality Awareness Week Oct 23-39, SEX+STL hosted a screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement last night. It was quite the mindbender! I’ll post my thoughts on it next week, but for now, get to know Vlad Drăculea. Kendra: What is asexuality? Vlad: Asexuality is a sexual orientation where […]

Meet Melanie, An Asexual

In honor of Asexuality Awareness Week Oct 23-39, we ask Melanie, a woman who identifies as asexual, a few questions. SEX+STL will be hosting a screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement Tuesday, October 18, 7pm. We’ll let you know how it goes! Kendra: What is asexuality? Melanie: Asexuality is a sexual […]

The Dick Chronicles: Projectile Dysfunction

by David Wraith Funny story: So, I’m on a first date with this girl I’d been crushing on for months. We go back to my place and after a lot of foreplay, I had what I thought was a reliable erection. Literally, the moment I put it in, it went limp. I didn’t get off […]

An Interview With The Asexual Sexologist

Note: This interview from a few months ago is being republished in honor of Asexuality Awareness Week, which is October 23-29. SEX+STL will be hosting a free screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement Tuesday, October 18, 7pm at a private home theater in South City St. Louis. Please RSVP to me […]

On Coming Out

Today is National Coming Out Day, so I’ve spent most of the morning reflecting on the idea of “coming out” and what that means. When I’ve written about the subject previously (see: “If you’re not out, you’re hurting us”), I’ve discussed the political ramifications of being out. I still believe that, over all, it’s those […]

The Dick Chronicles: Size Matters

  by David Wraith I read an article in a magazine a few years ago asserting that, in the single’s scene, a person’s worth is often reduced to two arbitrary numbers. For women, it’s their age and their weight. For men, it’s their annual income and penis size. Each number is often lied about, but […]

City Jerks

One of the tiny—but beloved—joys that I have is experiencing a discussion about sex or sexuality in media that I wasn’t expecting, especially when it’s nuanced. Sunday night, my roommate and I decided to start watching Louie, Louis C.K.’s current sitcom, while we ate dinner. After a reasonably funny first episode, we decided to start […]

So long,”Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”

There’s little that I can say that isn’t being said by others, but I think that Homo Riot’s poster sums up my feelings best of all: (art by Homo Riot.) -Johnny Murdoc

Thursday Music Video: Ani DiFranco, In or Out

-by Johnny Murdoc This song was a hugely reinforcing when I was in high school, not just when I was a little gay boy pretending I was bi, but when I came around to being cool with actually being homo. This song has such a wonderfully playful—but honest—attitude to it that I found really empowering: […]

Do All Real Women Have Curves?

by David Wraith I was trolling for naked pictures of my friends on FetLife, like I do, when I stumbled upon the picture to the right and the controversy it was causing. Lots of people were co-signing and amenning the sentiment, but a few people were expressing their displeasure with it. At some point in […]

The Anti-Pickup Artist

by David Wraith I used to jokingly refer to myself as an “anti-pickup artist.” In my 20s this was meant to symbolize my abject failure with women. I made a fool out of myself chasing women who had no interest in me (to stalkerish proportions), I was clueless about how to flirt and oblivious to […]

Don’t Be It, Dream It

Natty Soltesz is one of the most prolific gay erotica writers that I know. His work has been included in several anthologies (many of which include the word “best” in the title) and he’s contributed dozens of stories to the Nifty Erotic Archives, where I first came across his work (pun possibly intended.) I’ve had […]

The Randy Dandies find the Pearl: an interview with Mimi Le Yu

When I found out that Mimi Le Yu, one of my favorite burlesque performers, was fronting a new troupe called the Randy Dandies, I couldn’t keep away from their show Melons and Meat Sticks: a Dandy Backyard Burly-Q.  It was one of the best shows I’ve every seen. The storyline was entertaining and better developed than […]

Cosmocking

True Confession time:  I read Cosmo sex advice for years.  As my interest in women grew, and it was clear that Cosmo didn’t have any sex advice for queer girls (no kidding!), I stopped actually buying the dreck 9 or  10 years ago. Still, Ive been a faithful grocery-line reader until recently. Stopping even my […]

Ethical Monogamy

by Anna This past Sunday’s Coffee Talk  on monogamy was exciting for me not only because it was the first one that I have been able to attend, but also because it covered a topic that has been on my mind for the past couple of years. Most of my romantic relationships could be described […]

Coffee Talk: Monogamy 101

Join SEX+STL today at 3:00pm at Shameless Grounds (click here for directions!) for Monogamy 101. We’ll discuss the nuts and bolts of making a one-on-one relationship function. Communication, fantasy, jealousy, fidelity—we’ll challenge all of your assumptions about what monogamy means. (photo by Johnny Murdoc. Yes, he’s aware that he’s using a photo of a poly […]