Internet Hasn’t Killed the Radio Star: Sexaudia.com

by Anna After reading Johnny Murdoc’s post, I found myself wishing that there was somewhere that I could find lots of great sexuality podcasts in one place.  Well, when I started surfing around sexaudia.com, my wish was granted.  Sexaudia is a sexuality-focused web radio station. This means that anytime you can ‘tune in’ and hear […]

Where’s My Prostate? Or How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love the Flood

by Anna One of the subjects that has been floating in the background of my sexual conciousness is female ejaculation.  I started ejaculating about four years ago, and it’s been puzzling and a little frustrating that I have so little control over when and how much I squirt. Bringing this to the fore was a […]

That Poly Guy: Part 2, My Poly History

by David Wraith Hi, Sexuals. When people ask me how long I’ve been poly, I tell them nine years. This is technically true. I’m not even sure I knew the word “polyamory” before 2001. But the truth is, I’ve almost always been this way. When I was 11, I was introduced to “Rachel,” the resident […]

A Very Kinky K.U.F.F. Christmas!

By Kendra Holliday Today we interview the leader of K.U.F.F.  about one of the kinkiest rockin’ holiday parties in town this season! The Beautiful Kind: What is K.U.F.F.? Kaos: K.U.F.F. (Kinky Under Forty Fetishists) is a new group for the St. Louis area for kinksters who are in the 18 – 40 age range.  We […]

Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: Part One

by Johnny Murdoc Whenever sex educators or advice columnists are confronted with problems between partners, their first recommendation is going to be communication. Recommending communication is easy because it’s true: there’s honestly nothing more crucial for correcting problems or making a change within a romantic or sexual relationships than communication. We all know that we […]

That Poly Guy: Part 1

by David Wraith Happy Anniversary, a film starring you-know-who. Hi, Sexuals. The biggest surprise I’ve gotten in the brief period since Sex+STL got started is that I have received almost no questions about BDSM or nudism (two topics I know a bit about). Almost all the questions that have come to me personally, in person […]

A Spanking Good Time

By Kendra Holliday Years ago I had a girlfriend who wanted a riding crop for Christmas, and I thought, “How weird!” I’ve been to more than one party that featured a flogger where I was just a voyeur, and it looked pretty intense. I wondered what people got out of spanking. I mean, I spent […]

Department of Defense Releases Major Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Survey

by Johnny Murdoc Today should prove to be an important step forward for gay rights, as far as gays serving in the military is concerned. Just a short while ago, the U.S. Department of Defense released the findings of their thorough survey regarding the feelings of military personnel toward the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t […]

Where do you draw your line? Is the grass better fertilized on the other side?

by Anna When people negotiate what they want to do in bed, or discuss what they like sexually, there’s usually talk about lines. There are lines that must not be crossed, lines ok for nudging and pushing and lines that move around with the time of the month. Some lines are just fences to keep anything […]

Bend Over Boyfriends… We’ve Got You Pegged.

by David Wraith “Bend Over Boyfriend,” written and performed by Elva Maxine Beach My junior year in high school, a friend of mine came to me with great concern on her face. She’d heard something about me and wanted to know if it was true. She looked me in the eye and asked if I […]

Sex Positive Podcasts

by Johnny Murdoc So. Today nearly conspired to keep me from blogging again, much like last Tuesday conspired to keep me from blogging last week. But I have persevered and you, dear readers, get to reap the rewards! Or, not, since this feels a little rushed. Hopefully, in the near future, I can get back […]

“Sex at Dawn”: or Why I Prefer to Get It On at Sunset

By Anna SEX AT DAWN: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality (July 1, 2010, 384 pages; $25.99; ISBN 978-0-06-170780-3 Sex at Dawn has been a bit of a hit in the sex positive community due to dramatic support by sex advice guru Dan Savage. PoDGE discussed it last weekend at their monthly meeting, and as […]

The Collection Blog Interview

An interview with the members of a new polyamorous blog based in St. Louis called The Collection! Meet Charlotte, Nora, The Reverend, The Rabbit, J, Darling Niki, and Pussy Pie… The Beautiful Kind: Well you all were a big hit at the SEX+STL happy hour, and PoDGE is praising you. We’re so glad you’re a […]

EVENT: Coping With A Sex-Negative Environment

By Kendra Holliday Do you work, attend school, or live in a sex-negative environment? At this small coffee talk gathering at Meshuggah Cafe, 6269 Delmar Blvd , we will discuss ways to deal with complicated issues. Please join us. Sunday, November 14th, 3pm I’ve been fired from jobs, banned from activities, shunned and persecuted for […]

The Frugal, Safe Licking (Sucking, Nibbling) of Holes

by Anna Note:   we at SEX+STL are not medical professionals.  We do, however, spend a fair amount of time engaging in responsible, critical research  in order to answer your questions as best as we can. Read and use your own best judgment. Question:  Dental dams – which works better: a cut-open glove or plastic wrap? […]

Great Moments in St. Louis History: The Arousal Show

by David Wraith Watching Kendra and Beast’s scene from her Coming Out Party reminded me of the last time I really had my mind blown by a sex positive event in St. Louis. Ten years ago I was coming back from a trip to the west coast. I was lamenting being back in the conservative […]

“Like a Rose in Bloom”

Anonymous feedback from one of the attendees of our first SEX+STL fundraiser (we raised $300!): I had a fantastic time at the SEX+STL fundraiser party.  I met and talked with many interesting people, and found a community where I feel I fully belong. Watching TBK’s scene was entrancing; I felt like I was watching a […]

Sex Positive… MTV?

by Johnny Murdoc If you watch MTV these days, you can be forgiven for not realizing that the network was once on the vanguard of promoting safe and healthy sexuality. Shows like Jersey Shore do little to inspire the sex-positive conversation that we’d all like to see happen. During the 1990’s, when I was lucky […]

Fat Phobia – Not Sexy, Not Positive

by Anna One incident during last weekend’s Porn Festival really made me think.  It happened while watching a few scenes from Tristan Taormino’s Rough Sex 2.   Great film. You should see it. Anyway, it was a midnight showing, and and several groups of  people wandered in late. One group of Germans sat down behind me […]

SEX+STL Happy Hour Positively Successful!

By Kendra Holliday We had our first SEX+STL happy hour at Foam coffee shop Thursday night and I’m thrilled to let you know it was a huge success! Billed as a great way to meet like-minded people, thanks to the fine folks of St. Louis, the event lived up to that promise. It was amazing […]