City Jerks

One of the tiny—but beloved—joys that I have is experiencing a discussion about sex or sexuality in media that I wasn’t expecting, especially when it’s nuanced. Sunday night, my roommate and I decided to start watching Louie, Louis C.K.’s current sitcom, while we ate dinner. After a reasonably funny first episode, we decided to start […]

The Anti-Pickup Artist

by David Wraith I used to jokingly refer to myself as an “anti-pickup artist.” In my 20s this was meant to symbolize my abject failure with women. I made a fool out of myself chasing women who had no interest in me (to stalkerish proportions), I was clueless about how to flirt and oblivious to […]

After SlutWalk

by David Wraith A couple days before SlutWalk, my friend and SEX+STL co-founder, Kendra Holliday expressed concern that participants would need aftercare following such an intense experience. Intellectually, I knew exactly want she meant, but I have to admit that on a gut level, I just didn’t get it. Maybe it’s because I’m a man. […]

Manning Up with Christopher Sean Watson

by David Wraith “Men continue to control the narrative and experiences of women, which leads to violence being an acceptable form of control.” If there’s a man I know with feminist street-cred, it’s Christopher Sean Watson. When I met him, he was a field organizer for Amnesty International, but check out his CV: He was […]

Mr. Missouri Leather 2011, DJ Kaiser

by David Wraith I ran into DJ Kaiser a few months ago at South City Diner, shortly after he’d started Bad Boys of St. Louis. Having only met him in passing, I thought we’d make small talk for a few minutes. We ended up talking for well over an hour about the sex positive atmosphere in St. […]

Body Image Talk May 15

Do you ever think badly about your body? We ALL do, men and women alike, and we want to talk about that! Charlotte Times will lead a body image talk this Sunday, May 15 3pm at Shameless Grounds. Behold before and after pictures of Ms. Charlotte: An excerpt from her wildly entertaining blog, The Life […]

2nd Clothing Optional Tweetup Scheduled!

We had such a great first clothing optional tweetup, we’re going to give it another whirl. Sex Positive St. Louis is proud to host our SECOND clothing optional tweetup! The next one is scheduled for May 10, 6:30-9:30pm. This is a FREE event. Location is a private residence in South City area. Please RSVP to […]

Temptations Adult Toy Party April 25!

Temptations parties are often referred to with a giggle or a wink – “one of THOSE kind of parties.” An adult toy party is a little bit like any other home sales party – from cookware to candles, almost everyone has been invited to come to their friend’s house at some point, and to bring […]

On Barebacking by Lars Eighner

Back in August of 2010, writer Lars Eighner posted a couple of essays about (gay) bareback sex and (gay) bareback porn that I’d like to share. Thankfully, Eighner released the essays to the public domain, so I’m going to post them whole cloth over the next couple of weeks. The reason Eighner’s essays appeal to […]

The Vasectomy Dialogues: Justin’s Story

Justin (and yes, that his real name), is a local 30-something guy, who’s stays pretty involved in the polyamory and sexpositive communities.  If you come to one of our events, you just might see him around.  His openess about his experience  has provided a meaningful close to our three-part Vasectomy Dialogues series. Settling down with […]

The Vasectomy Dialogues: Chatting with Michael

Recently, I was able to catch up with Michael and he was kind enough to be open about how he made the decision to get a vasectomy and his thoughts on the experience.  He’s 38, self-employed and living in St. Louis.  He got his vasectomy in Fall 2009 at Planned Parenthood’s North County location. Q:Would […]