by David Wraith I ran into DJ Kaiser a few months ago at South City Diner, shortly after he’d started Bad Boys of St. Louis. Having only met him in passing, I thought we’d make small talk for a few minutes. We ended up talking for well over an hour about the sex positive atmosphere in St. […]
Category Archives: men
On Barebacking by Lars Eighner
Back in August of 2010, writer Lars Eighner posted a couple of essays about (gay) bareback sex and (gay) bareback porn that I’d like to share. Thankfully, Eighner released the essays to the public domain, so I’m going to post them whole cloth over the next couple of weeks. The reason Eighner’s essays appeal to […]
The Vasectomy Dialogues: Justin’s Story
Justin (and yes, that his real name), is a local 30-something guy, who’s stays pretty involved in the polyamory and sexpositive communities. If you come to one of our events, you just might see him around. His openess about his experience has provided a meaningful close to our three-part Vasectomy Dialogues series. Settling down with […]
The Vasectomy Dialogues: Chatting with Michael
Recently, I was able to catch up with Michael and he was kind enough to be open about how he made the decision to get a vasectomy and his thoughts on the experience. He’s 38, self-employed and living in St. Louis. He got his vasectomy in Fall 2009 at Planned Parenthood’s North County location. Q:Would […]
Is PIV the New Oral?
by Anna In days of yore, when reproduction and male orgasm were the primary goals of heterosexual sex, ‘the main event’ was the penis moving in and out of the vagina. Indeed, even today what most people mean when they say ‘sex’ is penetration (of a penis, into a vagina). That’s problematic in so many […]
Bad Boys of St. Louis
Bad Boys of St. Louis is an announcement list for local events for men who are interested in playing with other men. The list is organized by DJ, a South City resident, PHD student, and teacher. “I teach college to pay the bills,” he says. I first met DJ at a SEX+STL coffee talk just […]
The Bi-deology Project
The Bi-deology Project came across my radar immediately after Christmas when I was decompressing from a stressful family holiday by catching up on sex blog reading. I found Twanna Hines’ column on non-black men dating black women and wove my way from link to link to the Bi-deology Project, a joint video project that she […]
Bend Over Boyfriends… We’ve Got You Pegged.
by David Wraith “Bend Over Boyfriend,” written and performed by Elva Maxine Beach My junior year in high school, a friend of mine came to me with great concern on her face. She’d heard something about me and wanted to know if it was true. She looked me in the eye and asked if I […]
The Frugal, Safe Licking (Sucking, Nibbling) of Holes
by Anna Note: we at SEX+STL are not medical professionals. We do, however, spend a fair amount of time engaging in responsible, critical research in order to answer your questions as best as we can. Read and use your own best judgment. Question: Dental dams – which works better: a cut-open glove or plastic wrap? […]