The 35-Year-Old Virgin

by David Wraith My friend “Lisette” (not her real name) has a beautiful face, a gorgeous head of hair and (although she’s loathe to admit it) a pretty kick-ass body. She’s smart, well read, witty and charming. I’ve been trying to get in her pants for over twenty years, to no avail. I am comforted, […]

Is PIV the New Oral?

by Anna In days of yore, when reproduction and male orgasm were the primary goals of heterosexual sex, ‘the main event’ was the penis moving in and out of the vagina. Indeed, even today what most people mean when they say ‘sex’ is penetration (of a penis, into a vagina). That’s problematic in so many […]

Where’s My Prostate? Or How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love the Flood

by Anna One of the subjects that has been floating in the background of my sexual conciousness is female ejaculation. I started ejaculating about four years ago, and it’s been puzzling and a little frustrating that I have so little control over when and how much I squirt. Bringing this to the fore was a […]

The Frugal, Safe Licking (Sucking, Nibbling) of Holes

by Anna Note: we at SEX+STL are not medical professionals. We do, however, spend a fair amount of time engaging in responsible, critical research in order to answer your questions as best as we can. Read and use your own best judgment. Question: Dental dams – which works better: a cut-open glove or plastic wrap? […]

BC Recession-Style, Pt. 2

by Anna Note: There are two brands of hormonal Emergency Contraception (EC) on the market now -Plan B (which was the only brand out, when I needed the stuff) and Ella (which was approved by the FDA in August 2010). I am using EC interchangeably with ‘Plan B’ because I’m more familiar with Plan B […]

BC Recession-Style, Pt. 1

by Anna Disclaimer re: hormonal BC — I don’t use hormonal BC myself, and am frustrated by the fact that options that are less burdensome to finances, health and the environment don’t get nearly as much press as the latest version of ‘the Pill’. BUT most U.S. women use the Pill at some point in […]